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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/gregv2 on 2024-01-21 06:44:56+00:00.
I’m a lot older than my GF and I feel bad that she’s wasting her best years with me.
First, we’re awesome together and we love each completely. We’re both divorced, she’s 40 and and I’m 64.
I’m not a typical 64. People think I’m way younger based on my physical appearance.
She is also a young 40 and incredibly attractive.
Our kids (both from earlier marriages) are adults and all are successful.
We’ve been together for 3 yrs and have a wonderful lifestyle. We’re basically living a blessed life with money, friends, family and the ability to be together without any incumbencies.
We’re both completely committed to each other. When I had cancer last year, she stuck by me with no hesitation. We support each other in all areas endeavors and look for ways to elevate one another.
Given our age gap, it’s likely I will start the “check out” process well before her and leave her as a widow although we’re not married.
I’ve expressed my concern that she’ll be left alone in her 50/60s and she doesn’t care because I make her happy.
I get it and understand, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m stealing her best years.
Should I accept this and continue with our relationship or do I walk away and let her find someone younger?
It would kill me to have to give up someone who is so wonderful and perfect for me but I care so much about her that I only want the best for her, with or without me.
TLDR; I lover but I feel like I’m wasting her best years with me. Should I stay or release her?