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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/paige_Riplan on 2024-01-21 00:04:25+00:00.
I'm a 20 year old woman.
I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We're both at university.
A week ago I was at his house staying the night with him which I do a lot. I'm usually a really heavy sleeper while he can sometimes struggle. But I suddenly woke up and I thought I could hear water running. It toom me a few seconds to get my bearings together and I turned around to see my boyfriend facing away from me. I perched myself up a bit and I could see that he was urinating in a plastic bottle.
I freaked iut a bit at first. I was startled and blurted our what on earth are you doing. I wish I reacted more calmly but I was shocked. At first he tried to shrug it off like it was nothing saying the bathroom was occupied with one of his housemates and he was desperate. I wasn't sure but then I looked underneath his bed and I saw 2 other bottles filled with pee.
I challenged him again and then he admitted that he'd been doing it for years, keeping bottles underneath the bed down one of the sides that he pees in after he's started to try and sleep. He basically said he does it because he finds it really difficult to get out of bed to go to the bathroom when he's trying to sleep or wakes up needing a pee. He said that he ends up just staring into space for hours and not sleeping because he can't bring himself to get out of the bed to the bathroom. He said he cleans the bottles out every morning when no one else is their.
For me this was super gross and I couldn't believe he thought it was acceptable. Like everyone hates getting out of bed to go to the bathroom but they don't end up peeing in bottles right ?!. Him doing that is bad enough but him doing it while I'm in bed right next to him I found so disgusting.
The thing is other than this he is a super clean well kept man who always makes sure to look after himself. It's one of the many things that drew me to him. He's so lovely as well and I love him. This has come completely out of nowhere and I have no idea how to react. What should I do?
TLDR i caught my boyfriend of over a year urinating into a plastic bottle while I was in bed with him. He has admitted he has been doing it for years because he can't get himself out of bed when he is trying to sleep. I find this super gross and I don't know how to react
UPDATE: So when I say he has sleeping issues. I mean he has full on insomnia. When he has to get out of bed for any reason it makes it almost impossible for him to get any sleep at all after that.