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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/thenileindenial on 2024-01-20 18:26:02+00:00.
I (33M) cheated on my girlfriend (30F) and woman I want to marry one day. It was a one-time thing and I instantly regretted it and I came clean the very next day.
She was devastated and it took me a lot of work to get her back. When I finally got her to give me another chance, I told her I would apologize to her every day if that’s what she needed to understand how sorry I was. And so I did because every single day since we got back together, she brought my infidelity up in some way. Yesterday we were having our best and happiest day together, visiting her sister who just had a baby.
But at night, as we were at the car leaving, she looked at me and said: “you forgot to apologize to me today”. I was shocked - of course I apologized whenever she brought the subject up, but now she was acting like I took a vow to apologize voluntarily, as if to keep this matter alive forever and me constantly guilty and ashamed. I told her that and I made it clear she shouldn’t expect me to flagellate myself every day. It’s not healthy for me or her. I don’t know what to do anymore.
TL;DR: girlfriend expects me to bring up my infidelity every day to offer her an apology