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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Chapter-Actual on 2024-01-19 09:36:35+00:00.
I (24F) have been seeing W (28M) for 10 weeks now. We have been exclusive since about 4 weeks in. Minus a few minor bumps in the road, things have been going extremely well, so I’m ready to make it official. I’ve brought it up gently twice now, and tonight he said it’s too early for him.
He stays at my apartment 1-3 nights a week (he lives with his mom) depending on our work schedules, we talk every day, we use terms of endearment for eachother, etc. His parents know who I am by name, I’ve met his mother once briefly and he’s met mine. So it’s not like he’s trying to hide me. And I’m not really worried about him seeing anyone else because we Snapchat often and he’s either at home or with his friends when we’re not together.
I just don’t understand his hesitation to make things official, cause at this point it wouldn’t change anything that we’re doing. Am I expecting too much too soon? Am I stupid to just be patient and let him come to it in his own time?
TLDR: guy I’ve been seeing for almost 3 months (exclusive for almost 2) says it’s too soon to make things official. We are already acting like we’re in a relationship. No red flags for being lead on, but worried about doing this for months with no proper commitment