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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Bubbly_Host_8017 on 2024-01-19 02:25:42+00:00.
Me (23f) and my fiancé (30m) have been engaged since 2020. We were supposed to have our wedding last year but I pushed it back to this year to give myself more time to plan and save.
All has been going as planned till New Year’s Eve, my fiance refused to do a breathalyzer and therefore got charged as a fail. His truck is impounded for 30 days in the town I work in (he works 9hours away in a logging camp) he doesn’t have a license in this state but does in our home state, therefore he isn’t allowed to drive in this state. I’m supposed to pick his truck up at the end of the month for him as he isn’t allowed to drive here. But my license has just expired a week ago and I owe my insurance company $1500 from my previous vehicle that I need to pay in order to renew my license. They won’t accept my expired license.
I do have the money currently to pay it off and renew my license. But that money was supposed to go toward our wedding venue that is due in march. He isn’t contributing basically anything towards the wedding so it’s all falling on me to pay. My one friend here in town that I graduated high school with, is more than willing to pick up his truck for me and bring it to my work (a couple blocks away) saving me from having to renew my license immediately and spending the $ I should be putting towards the wedding. But he doesn’t like this idea, he doesn’t trust some “stranger” to drive his truck (he won’t even let me drive it) so therefore wants me to just go pick it up myself.
I’ve explained to him why I want my friend to and how much $$ it would save me but he was having non of it, said we should just push back the wedding again another year or downsize it completely. Our wedding is in June. Less than 5 months away. I’ve put down thousands on deposits, sent out invites, bought and booked everything. It’s too late to reschedule or downsize! I’m not losing my deposits again!! I threw away thousands last year moving it, I’m not doing it again. Sure I actually would just like to cancel things and just elope in the mountains but it’s just to late. It would cost more to cancel it than go through with it at this point.
So my question here am I being unreasonable for asking for my friend to pick up his truck from the impound so I can save my $ and put it toward the wedding like planned or should I just pay my insurance company off to renew my license so I can pick up his truck and make him more comfortable then somehow figure out how to make the $ up later.
TL;DR- my fiancé doesn’t want anyone else driving his truck, therefore it’ll cost me the $ I’m putting toward our wedding.