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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Far_Passenger3466 on 2024-01-19 01:24:03+00:00.
TL;DR
So my boyfriend and I have been driving my mom's car for a week and he drives very erratically. We saw there were some deep scratches which he claims was the valets fault and I believe him. I said we should split the payment to fix it which is ($1500). He is refusing to pay half. We also have a dog and my boyfriend on a business trip for a couple days and my parents are coming back from a month long trip so I would also like to see them and can't bring the dog with me so I asked if we could have a babysitter watch him and split the payment ($200). He said it's not his problem that I want to see my parents. So he is also refusing to pay half of this. I will say he does pay for a lot of things in the relationship and brings that up as an excuse not to pay for these expenses. He did offer to pay $1000 for the car at first (he was complaining about it) but I said no because he holds things against me and I didn't want to hear it but I rethought everything and I didn't think it was fair for me to pay all of it so I asked him to pay half and now he doesn't want to. I will say he does pay for a lot in this relationship and I also try to pay for things too and do nice things for him because he pays for majority of things and I get reminded of that often. He makes A LOT of money compared to me and he told me I make nothing when I make $10k every month. Now he's saying "I'll have my cpa write you up a invoice for what you owe me for what I've done since you want to play this game" This is not a game. I just think this is fair to split the car and dog expense. He also said "Wtf you literally tried to be a big girl a V pay for it then realized you couldn't afford it cause you'll have less money and now are freaking out cause you can't manage money. That's not emotional abuse that's called a woman who can't make up her mind and tries to act confident when in reality she can't walk the walk. So don't talk it." I manage my money really well I don't spend much on things I don't really need besides food.
Am I in the wrong for asking to split the car and dog payments?