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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/itsinsamity on 2024-01-18 22:49:10+00:00.
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and since we got together, he has never questioned my loyalty bc I have never given him a reason to... Yesterday though, out of nowhere, he went completely batshit on me accusing me of cheating on him with one of my male clients named Josh, saying that I'm trying to play him for a fool, and making up some bs story of how he saw a message notification from Josh while I was in the shower.
I searched my phone for a message from Josh, but nothing recent came up, not since we last messaged a few months prior discussing strictly business. I then gave my boyfriend my phone to find the proof he claims he saw on my phone himself, but he refused bc he said that he's sure I deleted it or the message came from a secret messaging app I'm hiding. He then just brushed me off & went back to calling me a liar and cheater without letting me get another word in before walking away and ignoring me the rest of the night.
Like I mentioned, my boyfriend suddenly accusing me of cheating to such an extreme, especially without having any proof to back it up, is completely out of the norm for him and a huge red flag for me. The only logical reason I can come up with for this sudden change is that he is the one actually cheating and he feels guilty about it, so he's trying to flip it on me to ease his guilt.
I cannot think of any other reason other than a cheater's guilt... Am I crazy for thinking this way?
TL;DR: I think my boyfriend cheated recently and feels guilty about so he trying to ease the guilt by accusing me to be the cheater. He claims he has proof I’m cheating but refuses to show me the proof or give me a chance to prove I’m not.