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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/AbiesHalva7 on 2024-01-19 10:12:08+00:00.

I (31f) broke up a 3 years long relationship with my fiancé (41m) after several months of gaslighting, cheating (phone full of hot chats, meeting arrangements, voice messages…), disappearing from house for days (leaves to “watch a football match” on Thursday, comes back on Monday, no news in a meanwhile, no response on calls/msgs), sexy dancing with girls in front of me, and LOADS of lies… basically an emotional hell.

I started dating someone recently, 8 months after separation with my ex. We’ve been dating (long distance but regularly seeing each other) for only couple of months but I am constantly asking myself if he is not trying to hide something from me, if he is telling the truth, if his intentions are good…

Should I stop dating him till I don’t fix the 💩 in my head? Am I not ready for new engagement? How do I spare myself this emotional and metal torture and how do I spare my future partner of my own toxicity?

TLDR: how do I know I can trust my new partner?