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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Inevitable-Ad7340 on 2024-01-19 09:58:37+00:00.
TLDR My ex is f*cking me over when I did nothing wrong. Why?
My gf [19F] and | [20M] of 1.3 years just broke up. Our relationship started when we lived together and it was the most perfect beautiful bond I've ever seen in my life. We had a life planned out together. I even helped her get past some trauma that had been plaguing her for 3+ years. We were the most perfect couple I could imagine (never fought, were honest, kept open about things, legit like mr fredrickson and Ellie from up), then I had to move away. Once I moved like 4-5 months in she started to lose feelings slowly and after multiple flights to go and see her, we decided we should break up bc neither of us were happy. We ended it on good ish terms with our last words being apologies and I love yous. Then she started to repost tik toks about never being loved or supported and how I never worked on myself for her. Not only did I devote my entire life to working on myself for her (getting a job and money, getting the grades I needed to get back to her) but she told me I was the single best person she had ever met when we were together. Not only that but legit like 3 days after we broke up she followed her ex [25M] on instagram (across the world, never actually met) right after she had told me she wouldn't be able to get over me and she couldn't handle any relationships for a while. Also her guy friends (never met but have liked her before) kicked me from their discord and called me a racist, a biggot and told me no one likes me at all. In the relationship she said she would stop talking to them if they did something like that to me but she decided to 'not take any sides'. I haven't said anything and I've just resorted to blocking her on those apps, but I'm still in love with her and we WERE both hopeful of getting back together someday when we broke up. We were gonna talk again after one month, but should I confront her abt these things in a month? Why is she doing this? Is this her knowing I'm seeing these things and trying to get a reaction out of me? Is it considered a reaction if I'm blocking her? Why am I so deeply in love with her even after all of this? I've cried every single night since she's left and it seems she's already moving on and doing things to spite me. Is she moving on or is she just trying to hurt me bc she’s hurting? And why?
P.S. she sent me a paragraph after we broke up about how I was everything she wanted and needed and she thanked me and said it was just right people wrong time.