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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/grapesodamilk on 2024-01-19 06:59:33+00:00.
My bf and I have had a month break since he decided to break up with me. We had been dating for 3 years, living together. It was a messy and off breakup because very shortly after he regretted the decision and wanted to get back together. I said it was too soon so we had a month break.
Now that it’s been a month I’m still not confident that things have changed although he says he been working on himself. There were just so many issues that I’m doubtful that he’s really changed.
Some of things we argued about frequently were communication, having different lifestyles (he didn’t like that I slept in a separate bed bc I’m a light sleeper, or went to a different gym to him), him wanting to start a business with me when I wasn’t ready, him thinking I’m not empathetic enough or a good listener. He also has a child from a previous ex and he wanted me to be more involved.
After breaking up he suddenly took back everything he said and did a complete 180 on his views on all the things we argued about like saying that he liked how I was around his kid, didn’t mind if we didn’t start a business together or didn’t care if I went to a different gym and slept separately etc basically the opposite of everything he said before. Is this a red flag or does he genuinely mean this?
He really sounded sincere. But how do I trust him that we won’t fall back into our old ways? Do I give him a chance and get back together or no
TLDR:
My ex wants to get back together after a month break, saying he’s changed his views and I’m not sure if I should trust him