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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Upbeat-Number-2001 on 2024-01-19 06:39:13+00:00.
Hi everyone, so my partner and I are having some pretty big struggles right now and I'm really unsure how to feel.
My gf is poly and I am not. When we first met I had no idea what that meant. In my mind it was if something is lacking from me and someone else can provide that okay sure.
Oh boy was I wrong, I've been learning more and more about polyamory and to each their own. I've come to the realization it is NOT for me.
So with all that being said she is "non practicing" so we are treating this as a monogamous relationship. She is a STAHM and I work from home. We are both pretty anti social people and don't go out often. Through our talks and discussions the topic of having 1 on 1 time with male friends and making male friends came up. She said not sexual, and I believe that is the true but everyone is liable to a fault in judgment.
I am not comfortable with the idea of my partner building and refining emotional relationships with other men. And her response is I'm unwilling to budge and that's not fair.We had this talk last Friday, my stomach has been in knots since and I've eaten maybe 2 meals.
I am willing to walk away and given her the opportunity to leave. But we've been together for 3 years and I do love this woman and her children with all my heart. I just can't help but feel so viscerally at the thought of my partner with other men.
I'm looking for some advice and possibly hope. Thank you all in advance.
TLDR my gf wants to make new male friends and spend 1 on 1 time with them. I am not comfortable and have expressed this.