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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Fit-Education-9473 on 2024-01-19 04:20:38+00:00.
I feel terrible...
Me(20m) and my gf(20f) have been together since 15.I feel in love with her in highschool and we are together for 5 years now.During this period we had our ups and downs but things worked out well and we stayed together. Last 2 years there has been a drastic change. Past 2 years she has gained a lot of weight, which for me is a big problem in our relationship. I've talked to her about this and she always gets mad.I don't like her being overweight, it doesn't fit her body and I've told her this.One year she managed to lose a good amount of weight and it was the time she was most attractive to me.
She is my first gf and I'm her first bf.We get along and I love her.We always talked about marriage and all that stuff, but it seems to me like it won't happen if we go this way.
First big problem was after we started having sex.I have a high six drive and it is a problem because she is the very opposite.She never initiates sex and always likes when I pleasure her, but when I want something she gets mad and says I just think about sex.Later on she gained weight and lost confidence in herself(which I talked about with her but again,she gets mad)and in resulted that our sex life went down the hill.We have sex about 2,3 times in a month depending how much we see each other.
Another problem is us not being able to see each other a lot.Early on we went out almost every day, but when she started university and I began to work we aren't seeing each other that much.I get it that she is learning but she says she got no time for us to see each other and always want me to come to her house, but never the opposite.
Now the thing that bothers me the most. I'm an athlete and I find myself attractive, and I get a lot of looks from other girls.I like talking to girls and when I see that they're attracted to me it makes me feel wonderful.Before I met her I was always out there chasing girls.
I feel stuck because she has no plan to change anything in this relationship.I love her but I don't want to ruin her life by breaking up with her...
TL;DR: Don't find gf attractive after her weight gain, feel stuck in a long relationship.Want to explore more