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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/GardenOk3110 on 2024-01-19 03:46:23+00:00.
I've know my friend for over 11 years and I believe that for the last 5 or 6 years I have gradually fallen in love with her. The only trouble is that the last time I told her I caught feelings about 4 years ago she made it clear that she wasn't interested. Since then I've never brought it up since then or been overly weird/pushy with her and taken the hint even though deep down I know I love her.
The reason I've been thinking of telling her how i feel is more to benefit how I feel about the whole situation and NOT with the expectations of getting in to a relationship with her. All of our mutual friends have known how I feel about her and let me talk to them about how it makes me feel for better or for worse at times. We have just sort of kept it a secret to avoid drama or any problems.
Anywho now she is at Uni and has a boyfriend and is clearly happy with what her life is whilst I am not. So what should I do ? I really don't think telling her is the best idea right now as that could become a problem in her current relationship and I don't want to make things even more complicated. I need an outside opinion on what to do
TLDR I have loved my friend for years and now she is in a relationship I don't know if I should tell her how I feel even tho it is affecting me