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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Interesting_Lab_2487 on 2024-01-19 03:46:14+00:00.
In 8 years she has only initiated intimacy 1 time on our first date ,I love her with all my heart n would do anything to see her happy.. my issue is that my libido is much higher then hers n when she turns me down which is about 90% of the time n then also never initiates or communicates cuz she’s engrossed in videos n video games the second she comes home iI’ve been pleading with her for the majority of our relationship to once in a blue moon just come up n give me a kiss or show me in some way that u want to be with me.. 7 years of asking n then not asking n back n forth n not once has it happened I’d be happy if she would just Exhibit a tiny fraction of the amount of love i have n show for her
I’m not cocky but I also never had self esteem issues or these feelings of not being enough until her n her complete disregard of my needs n wants in a relationship n now we move across county I’ve sold all my belongings n left my sick (80yr old parents across the country to be with this girl i alone packed and then unpacked all out furniture n belongings all the while havin double hernia hydro seal n when I plead with her to be intimate as it’s the only time I feel she’s ever really present with me n a nice biproduct of that is we both get to feel good n the pressure in my nuts eases for a few days but her response is to find different excuses on y she won’t be intimate one day it’s because I interrupted her game the next day maybe I made a joke she didn’t think was funny enough or I was snoring last nite or i slurped my pasta or soup n the lost never seems to end so naturally I get upset n we argue n mid argyuement she’ll say u kno I was actually going to suggest we could fool around today but because of (insert random excuse here) now we’re def not doing anything for god knows how long am I wrong or crazy to get hurt by this? do I continue to allow myself esteem to slowly evaporate because her clear inability to love me as much as I love her?do I have enough love for us both to get over this hump or should I call it quits cuz she’s too obsessed with me providing her with financial security and should I once again pack all my things n move back cross country
tl;dr my girlfriend doesn’t give me the physical intimacy I’ve been asking for our entire relationship unless I initiate. And even then she turns me down a lot with excuses, one being that I don’t give her enough security . It makes me feel unloved. Should I stay or move back cross country?