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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Leolover812 on 2024-01-19 02:04:15+00:00.
My (36F) husband (40M) of 8.5 years told me he believes he was born in the wrong gender. He believes he should have been born a female. He is considering transitioning MTF. To say I am shocked is an understatement. He has never indicated this in our entire relationship (13 years). I feel very overwhelmed. I love my husband but I am not attracted to women. I married a man. I didn’t marry a woman. We have a 20 month old son. I feel so conflicted and don’t know what to do or think. Everything about the life I thought I had is gone. He says he has felt this way since 12/13 years old. While I’m sad for him that he had to hide his true self all these years, I’m angry because if he thought that why did he just string me along like this? Only to say it hasn’t been his true self all this time. Now we have this life, this beautiful baby boy, good careers and family and friends we are close to and it’s not even true. It’s a lie. I am just crying thinking about how this will affect our relationship, our son, family and friends. I won’t lie I don’t know if I can continue the relationship. I want to support him but right now I’m just so shocked and blindsided. I don’t even know what I’m looking for here. I can’t tell anyone this and I’m feeling so alone. Has anyone else gone through this?
TL:dr my husband told me he is transgender and I don’t know what that means for our life together