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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/Academic-Ad4605 on 2024-01-18 17:35:54+00:00.
I just broke it off with my wonderful bf. Sweet, funny, attractive, and we got along well but something felt off for a while. I wanted romance. Compliments. Being made to feel like I was truly important to him. The kind of love that didn’t seem to fade. I understand the honeymoon phase will always end but I don’t feel that showing each other love and appreciation the way your SO is expecting should. Let me start by saying he wasn’t this way from the beginning but did try. Our relationship also had a rough start. Big loss in the family; trying to push through with depressed bf. It has been hard.
I wasn’t being loved in the way I was hoping for despite asking and arguing about it for years but now I feel awful. I gave him one last chance less than a month ago and although he has been trying, everything set in for me. I’ve seen the effort countless times last only about a week or two. I didn’t want to feel like I was wasting more of our time. I, unfortunately, have threatened the idea of leaving multiple times but finally decided to do it and now I feel like I am regretting it. I guess he didn’t see it coming. Said I led him on thinking he could fix things. That he was excited to have me as his wife and start a family in the new house. I feel terrible because told me he feels like he’ll never have the chance to have that now because he is getting old and basically won’t get his hopes up. I haven’t seen him cry that much in so long. I feel like a truly broke this man.
I love him so so much and my heart hurts but I haven’t felt 100% happy in a long time. I don’t know if it’s just me being unrealistic or if the relationship was wrong for me. I feel bad for dragging it out, waiting to see if things would change. And now I wish I could take it back but I’m afraid if I do things will just be the same. Was I asking for too much? Did I make a mistake?
TL;DR 27F broke off 7 year relationship with great 35M