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Albuquerque NM vs Columbus OH. (lemmy.ml)
submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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What do you think is best for a poor just coming out gay guy in his 30s trying to escape the things that come with street life. I am also more interested in older people than people my own age. Afaik there is no place for me.

I fully assume I'll end up homeless but I have to leave.

I'm open to other areas too. Definitely away from north east/new England. Preferably away from East Coast.... Preferably near the ocean or a good lake... I don't want to be stuck in crime or around homophobes.

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[–] zeusbottom 11 points 11 months ago (1 children)

ABQ is not quite Wild West, but you do need to watch yourself there. Good farmers’ market and plenty of Native influence.

Columbus downtown seemed like a nice Midwestern spot, touch of Rust Belt, heavy on Buckeye mania of course. Seemed really quiet when I visited many summers ago.

Have you considered Chicago? Boystown is a great neighborhood. Kinda wished I’d lived there even though I’m not LGBTQ. I think it’s still relatively low crime. But I’m sure you’ll want to do (or have done) your own homework on that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I kinda of thought about Chicago. I'm trying to stay away from the bigger cities for now. Even Cleveland OH.

[–] funkforager 2 points 11 months ago

Columbus is a bigger population than Cleveland. It’s kind of the bigger city these days.

I was going to say that if you want a lake then you want Cleveland, not Columbus. Also there is an inner suburb of Cleveland called Lakewood you should check out. It has a great LGBTQ+ scene (for a smaller city) and is super welcoming in that friendly midwestern way.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

FWIW I don't think you're going to find a more progressive region to live outside of New England

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Either way way I know I'm definitely not wanted in New England/northeast. I wouldn't be looking to move if that weren't the case.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Why do you think that is?

[–] FriendOfElphaba 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It really seems like you might have bigger issues than deciding between Albuquerque and Columbus. I can tell you about ABQ, but maybe you can give some more details about what’s pushing you to move, and why you’d look at those two cities in particular.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

They seemed cheap and open to LGBT.

[–] FriendOfElphaba 3 points 11 months ago

I’d feel like you could get better advice if you give more details, and maybe ask about LGBT friendly cities in some of the LGBT communities.

ABQ isn’t bad, but it’s not homeless friendly, and it gets cold in the winter. You could live outside of Albuquerque in the east mountains for relatively cheap but would need a vehicle to get into town.

But seriously, there’s more going on there that I think you might be able to use advice on.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Columbus has Dirty Frank's Hot Dog Palace which makes it a far superior choice.

[–] pastermil 2 points 11 months ago

Portland, OR?

[–] [email protected] -4 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Columbus is basically the only cool city in all of Ohio and Albuquerque is a dangerous shithole. Between these two, Columbus is the far better option.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

What's your definition of "cool city?" I'm biased since I live there, but I'd say that Cleveland seems much cooler to me: ethnic neighborhoods/food, public transportation, lower CoL, vibrant queer communities, being on Lake Erie, and more.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Have you lived in both?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

In a sense, yes. (Not OP)

I currently live in Santa Fe, and hear a lot about the crime in Santa Fe. I have friends who live there that corroborate crime statistics that say it's mostly property crime. But I damn sure wouldn't go around messing with people; violent crime is high, too.

I lived in Columbus Ohio for a few months once, finishing my last semester at OSU. Stay away from campus when there are football games. People are...lethargic or something...

But otherwise, I'd say Columbus is probably the better of the two. Crime didn't seem to be as bad there as it is in Albuquerque.