I mean like... Most of the people I've had crushes on.
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I've had more crushes that went nowhere faster than my investment portfolio. π
I am physically in pain after reading that. May your upvotes climb faster than either!
At this point if I cannot see the humor in life, I'd be suffering from even worse depression than I do already. But thank you for your kindness!
There was a girl at school I was friends with who I had a crush on for a few years. We did a liiiittle bit of flirting with passing notes and she was very kind but never took an interest in me romantically. I wrote her lots of poems which she was very nice about and I was in love, but it went nowhere. She ended up dating some other guy in our year group and I thought "what does he have that I don't?" but the heart wants what the heart wants. I don't regret it. It was a happy non love affair I think.
I actually ended up dating a girl in the year above me and she was awesome while it lasted but she left home and our relationship didn't survive the distance.
In the end I eventually married someone from work but it took us a while to get together because we both thought the other one was out of our league. We got together on the way back from an Ed Sheeran concert!
That's correct - the heart does want what it wants. And I've often been puzzled by the same.
Sometimes the heart wants a person who doesn't put it on a pedastal and asks if the heart wants to grab a coffee after class because the heart seems cool.
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Right? Like 99% of my crushes. That's usually how crushes work, isn't it? They can't all be relationships/etc.
I had a crush on a girl during the last few months of my last semester in undergrad (we were both going to grad school in different states). Beautiful and smart, we talked a lot during class discussions, we texted each other once in a while. This girl had me daydreaming while driving and cheesing hard while singing to pop songs with the windows rolled down. So I decide to ask her out. We meet up at a coffee shop, turns out the coffee shop is closed but we walk over to an ice-cream shop and talk and flirt for hours. We hug goodbye and I'm beaming on my way back home. We continue texting back and forth for a few days and I decide to ask her out once again. I ask if Saturday works for her and she replies that she's going to be celebrating her third anniversary with her boyfriend on Saturday but maybe Sunday would work. I had no idea she had a boyfriend, so needless to say, that went nowhere. Or rather, we both went our separate ways and I'm still considering reaching out once I'm done with grad school.
My high school and college journals are filled with so much angst about crushes and βdo they like me? donβt they like me?β that itβs physically difficult to re-read them now, hah.
I had a crush on a redhead from about 10 until I left for college (it was a small town), then crushed on the various guys in my dorm and friend group (and one hot artist girl in a philosophy class) until I decided I needed to practice dating in junior year and actually went on a few thanks to Tinder. Though I didnβt escape entirely as I had a couple crushes on regular customers when I worked in an art supply store after graduating.
Now Iβm happily partnered and do not miss the mental anxiety of crushes, though thereβs a twinge of excitement in the idea of having a crush that will always be nostalgic.
I am born German but didn't grow up there and couldn't even speak it until I was about 16. Anyway, there was this was girl I crushed so hard on. Mysterious, long black curly hair. Couldn't muster up the courage to talk to her, but we had some common friends. And they told me the girl would also like to get to know me.
Thanks to them we arranged a date, but Ms. Mysterious didn't show up. And afterwards she just ignored me. Of course I was an absolute wreck and couldn't understand what the problem was.
So I asked our friends and they said, poor kid don't you realize why? No of course not? Well, she's Israeli, you're German, her father found out and put an end to it.
So I reconnected with an amazing woman I've known since sophomore year in high school during the pandemic and we're fell back into being really close friends supporting each other during pandemic isolation. I believe the attraction initially went both ways and if I'd been willing to travel a LOT we could have possibly tried for a long-distance relationship. But none-the-less, we are still good friends to this day, although it kills me a bit to watch her go from bad relationship to bad relationship just because they are all local rather than 800 miles away, lol.
That lol is carrying a lot of weight
True thatβ¦
Alyssa Milano
She never did anything for me. I dunno why. I am more into the "imperfectly beautiful" look myself - like Hillary Swank and Cheryl Crow. To me, "perfectly beautiful" is smoking hawt!
Gillian Anderson. I couldn't even find her phone number. Total dead end.
Tiffany Amber Theissen.
Now I know your age.
Every celebrity crush I've had has went nowhere.