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Not me, but the first time my boyfriend traveled with my family somewhere, he could not believe that sitting quietly in a living room reading was a thing. My family didn't feel the need to fill our day to the brim with tours or shopping or other activities. And that was shocking to him.
That's shocking to me too. Why travel if you aren't going to make the most of being in a different place?
So you don't burn yourself out.
A lot of people end up miserable on vacations because they don't give themselves time to relax and enjoy it.
They were though...
You're totally right! To be fair, we do go out. It's just that people can choose what to do. There's no scolding or pulling if you choose to stay in.
Also, we don't really do big expensive holidays, and I think that contributes to people feeling okay staying in. The few times we have done big trips, the story is different. But my boyfriend only knows the smaller trips.
I'm getting flashbacks to our family skiing vacations...
Parents: Kempeth, come spend time with the family.
Me: alright, we doing something? playing a game? watching tv?
Everyone: *opens a book and sits quietly in a corner*
Me: *goes to do something else*
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Oh man, this is relatable.
If I'm visiting my parents, my mom insists on "visiting" -- that is, either sitting and talking endlessly, playing boardgames, watching a movie together, or going out to do something. She has complained about us being unsociable for sitting and reading for an hour or two after spending the whole day doing things she wants.
My in-laws, on the other hand... don't. There is absolutely no pressure to do anything. They are just happy to have us there, regardless of what we choose to do (or not do). Speaking from 13 years of experience with them: it's awesome.