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As someone who's been dealing with OPs exact scenario with a family member for 20+ years, I can 100% say that this is the only correct answer.
What started 10 years ago with me asking nicely to drop that habit because it feels like a disrespect of my time, has over the years turned into major conflicts. I can get behind somebody calling me with a simple "come here" to get my attention, but as soon as I ask "what for?" and they go out of their way to make the reason a secret by repeating "just come here" over and over, it's stops being a bad habit and quickly turns into straight up malice. Especially after being repeatedly told that it's something that I value for them not to do.
I've adjusted my behavior far more for people that I like a lot less, just to adhere to their comfort. If a coworker asks me not to stack boxes too high because she has trouble reaching them, I will. Even though their respect or friendship means a lot less to me than a family members or friends, I will go through this minor trouble because it's just common courtesy.
But for some reason, the request of giving one sentence of context for a call down two flights of stairs from a loved one, is impossible to fulfill.
Since my situation has been going on for so long, I've naturally started looking into this behavioral issue and sought out other people experiences with similar things.
Simply put, it's a form of narcissism.
I've started noticing other typical narcissistic patterns with that person too. Like for example on multiple occasions I've been busy with something else in another room and hear somebody dropping and breaking a plate, suddenly this person rushes to me and asks me why I made them drop the plate, because their brain is incapabile to recognize their own wrong doing. This isn't even the most extreme example, just the most common one.
In short, if this is something that has been going on for a long time and your requests have been ignored, that person has most likely a mental condition. This is not normal adult behavior. If you're tethered to this person you can read up on how to deal with them or ask some experts. But just know, that getting them to change is fighting for a lost cause.