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What was the biggest pill you've had to swallow about your own self or habits? (lemmy.ml)

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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The latter made me aware of the former.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

The thing with the former case is that basically nobody does nice things out of pure abstract altruism. Being nice can bring pleasure, be part of an identity, avoid shame and maybe boost your ego. That's why people do it, and why they can turn around and be a monster the next moment if a new way to meet those needs becomes dominant (just open a history book). So, I wouldn't worry too much.

Edit: Where that leaves human kindness and relationships morally speaking is a bigger question. And given that we've just established how little people care about abstract things, a weirdly irrelevant one.

This is the part where I'd normally give practical advice, if I wasn't staring straight into the existentialist abyss. Anyway...