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Asking this as a Qatari with a polygamous father. My father’s second wife is Swedish and I know it was a tough pill to swallow for her family and friends back home.

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Okay, my bad. But the fact that she had to have it explicitly written in her marriage contract means that it's not the legal standard and doesn't apply to every other woman in Quatar. And it still only works because she doesn't marry anyone else.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago (3 children)

True, Qatar’s legal system is based on Islam and Islam entitles a man to max 4 wives concurrently. It’s why you can’t explicitly write in your marriage contract that the husband is not allowed any more wives - that’s his right. You can circumvent this by stating he needs your consent instead. In Islam silence implies consent, so if you don’t specify anything about this it’s taken as “my husband is free to take more wives without consulting me”.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

And how could this not be frowned upon by cultures such as Swedish where women and men are regarded as equals?

Edit: It's not about polygamy per se but about the women's role this kind of polygamous marriage. I don't know your family and it might work for everyone involved but that's where her connection's worry comes from.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 1 week ago

And with that, it shows men are not considered equal to women.

So, in the many countries where women are considered equal, this right of the man only, is not going to fly.

Can she have 4 husbands? If so, I retract.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

The fact that you even have to ask this is a problem.