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Asking this as a Qatari with a polygamous father. My father’s second wife is Swedish and I know it was a tough pill to swallow for her family and friends back home.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

The gender balance at birth is generally close to 50/50, I think it's closer to 51/49 but it's close enough that it doesn't matter. If one man takes two or more wives, it means there will not be enough women for every other man to also find a wife.

Setting aside the wider point, I'm pretty sure that's not true, because to have multiple wives you have to be able to provide for multiple wives and multiple sets of children. I'd guess the percentage of men who can do that is small enough in most if not all places to not have an effect on the wider population.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

This is true. Each wife is entitled to her own house, car, allowance, etc. They have to be treated equally; at least that’s how it is in Islam. For example, my mom and father’s other wife don’t even interact that much except for communal family events and holidays for example.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

You're slightly right, but not really. Polygamy has always been a niche thing, but the groups that practice them are usually in small geographic areas with each other rather than spread out in society.

This concentration and imbalance is why Fundamental Mormons for example expel so many young men.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lost_boys_(Mormon_fundamentalism)