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Asking this as a Qatari with a polygamous father. My father’s second wife is Swedish and I know it was a tough pill to swallow for her family and friends back home.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Everyone’s citing Christianity, but that’s not completely accurate—monogamy isn’t really promoted by the New Testament outside of the letters of the apostles, who were trying to appeal to a Roman audience. The Christian church enforced monogamy through the Middle Ages, but it was originally adopted from the Romans.

As for why the Romans practiced it, there are several theories—one is that Roman women had relatively higher status compared to women in most Middle Eastern cultures; another is that the prospect of marriage for more men made Roman armies more effective.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Also, being a slaver society, if you wanted a side-chick as a middle class roman, you just bought one, and since the kids from those slaves were not able to inherit, the wives basically let it slide (although I am unsure how much fight they put up verbally. Letting husbands have a servant for “entertainment” as well as domestic chores were not unheard of even by the victorians)