I think where the disconnect is, is that you're continuously, in those quotes, making declarations about what it and isn't gender, what is and isn't trans.

That's what the comments were removed for.

In those quotes, you aren't seeking understanding, you aren't discussing the subject, you aren't expressing an interest, you're saying, directly "this is my opinion on the matter, and I refuse to consider any alternatives"

You literally say you're drawing a line in the sand.

That's gatekeeping, 100%

Does it make you a transphobe? Hell no. Does it make you a bad person? Not in any way whatsoever.

But it is you doing exactly what the rule is about: telling other people that they and their gender/pronouns are yours to decide the validity of

And that's okay, you have a right to have that opinion and draw that line. We all do.

You do see that though, right? That every quote you chose, it's you declaring other people's genders and pronouns invalid. It doesn't matter whether or not it was drag. It doesn't matter who you were talking about, you don't very to make that decision for others

You don't, I don't, nobody does.

We can all have great discussions about the semantics of gender, of how pronouns function, what their role in language, philosophy, and society are. We can even make declarative statements like that if we want to. But it doesn't change that if we expect our opinions on the matter to hold sway, we'd be assholes.

I mean, c'mon you directly brought in the whole biological argument. Like, the worst possible way to address the subject matter, the claim to have a inherently superior ownership of transness because it has to be biological, and only biology matters? You have to see that that's the exact bullshit being weaponized against trans people. Even if you didn't mean it the same way (and I know you didn't, I know you're not a bigot), it's the exact worst possible argument to use.

It's so arrogant, claiming to have not only the ability to know what is and isn't biological, but whether or not it has validity. You directly say that you're deciding what is and isn't valid, for other people. I mean, are you even a doctor? Of any stripe at all. Can you back up the claim that there's no biological mechanism at play that leads a person to have a connection to an animal that can serve the same role as gender identity?

Because there's a ton of information about neurodivergence out there, and some of it points to there being a high correlation between trans identities and neurological differences from cis brains. The overlap between a huge range of neuroatypicality and not just trans identity, but the very otherkin related identities being objected to is there, and neurology is biology. It just is. You can't have a brain that operates independently of its underlying biological imperatives. It's built by DNA, RNA, and epigenetics into this network of complicated nerves that run through a meat suit, interacting with it chemically and electrically.

That's biology. Now, I'm with you, there's no actual dragons that aren't komodo. And a cat isn't a human, nor is a human a cat. But I am not confident in saying that someone's inner self finding expression by identifying with or as a cat isn't biological. To the contrary, unless it only appears after disease or injury, I would say that it has to be biological in origin, even though the specific expression may be a psychological development as opposed to purely anatomical or physiological one.

While you are definitely not an enemy, not a transphobe, not a bigot, you definitely broke the rule, multiple times, and you picked your own quotes about it. If this was still about whether or not a mod action was justified, it would be totally YDI with that list of quotes.

At every step, you laid claim to the authority to decide for others whether their identity is valid.

I'm kinda beating a dead horse here because I'm a little flummoxed that you can't see all those comments and notice that you're doing exactly what they were removed for.

After all that, it really doesn't matter what the specific target was, it doesn't even matter that they are, defacto, making it clear that they accept xenogenders as valid genders within blahaj and that the rule applies to them. What matters at that point is that you had multiple comment removals and kept doing the same thing. I'd have banned you too, even preemptively because it looks like you're making it a fight.