I never kept a journal consistently because writing my thoughts felt like giving anyone access to them, and thus, I felt pressured to write like an eloquent Socratic philosopher just in case anyone DID read it.
An interesting discussion on r/journaling about being honest, or not, in one's journal. And how the OP found it to be tiring.
What do you think?
And do you lie or simply make yourself look better in your journal, just in case some would read it?
I tend to agree with the OP. But, I also understand that desire to please and to be liked (and to not be judged) just in case someone would read that journal, even without our consent.
I also think that when one stops being honest in their journal there is a very real risk to lose interest in journaling altogether. Which I would not want to happen.
I did lie for a while in y journal, openly I mean. I called that being 'hypocritical' but it was only me lying to myself and to that hypothetical and very unwelcome reader. It did not last long, it was during a very challenging time with a lot of self-doubt... not that long ago as a matter of fact. I stopped doing that soon after I started as it was exhausting and not very helpful. And not fun at all.
Also, there are much simpler way to tell lies to an audience. Being an actor or a politician are two obvious ways of doing it. Or be a writer and write (or sketch) stories in which you lie. Not all stories are lies, but many are and that's perfectly OK.
Stories are great as in them one can pretend absolutely anything. And they're also much simpler to share than a journal, if that's what you're wanting to do. I mean, beside traditional publishing in books or magazines there are many places and communities one could share their ~~lies~~ stories to an audience more willing to believe them ;)
100% right. If you're asking me, I would say it's your journal, it's your rules. That journal ought to be whatever you want it to be :)
On a more general note, that's one thing I'm afraid of while I'm trying to encourage people to (talk more about) journal, in the community. I do not want to weigh-in on anybody, in any way. But I may still be pushing people to try stuff... because I wish as many people to experiment with journaling at least once, and decide for themselves if it something they want to keep doing, or not. And do it however they want to do it, not like I or anyone else is doing. There is no right or wrong way. There are only ways that work, or don't work for every single one of us.
If you feel like it, do not hesitate to develop on that 'changing narrative' and 'be the hero of one's own story' you mentioned. I'm pretty confident more people would feel encouraged to experiment with that themselves and to talk more freely about it knowing they're not alone—you're not— and that it's perfectly fine too ;)
Thanks for your great comments!
Thx for starting the discussion ;)