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Is it wrong to not have a disabled child solely to avoid forcing the child to suffer their whole life?
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You’ll have to think through a few other philosophical questions first.
What about ailments that either cannot be detected prior to birth or which take onset after birth? By going forward with these uncertainties, you take a nonzero chance of subjecting the hypothetical potential progeny to the same fate.
Even without any chronic ailments inseparable from a person’s body or psyche, there are still external hazards. Is it not ok to force someone to suffer a stubbed toe, yet ok to force an offspring to be born to suffer the eventual certainty of stubbing their toe? I think it would be impossible to find a sentient life that did not experience even a modicum of suffering. What percentage of an offspring’s life do you consider acceptable to force them to suffer through and to what magnitude of suffering? Can you guarantee that these criteria are met throughout their life?
Who do you intend to benefit from making a child? Yourself, your partner, your parents, your religious leaders, your nation’s work force? I don’t expect people to answer “The child”, yet the child is the one who is most involved and the one who must live that life through. The child would not notice any detriment relative to birth if they were not born, and suffering can only be noticed by those who are born (which I would say is certain to happen), so in what way does it benefit any child to be born and shift from zero suffering to some suffering? To what extent does the boon for others that would be exploited from the child’s birth justify the non-zero suffering that the child would experience?
One could make the argument that suffering is more or less the opposite of happiness, and so that if you give the kid a good enough life, that cancels out the suffering and then some, but a lot depends on how exactly you define those things I guess.
That's literally true, but the simple counterargument is that the happiness/suffering conversion coefficient is a matter of one's values and not particularly up for debate - so there's nothing incoherent about, say, the position that your child living a happy fullfilling life for a thousand years but stubbing their toe once is enough suffering to make their life net negative.
Indeed, it's not incoherent, at some level though I'd argue that morality is at it's core simply a tool for deciding what actions one should take, and a system that both follows a utilitarian model and makes it extremely easy for someone's life to be negative carries the implication that the world would be happier were you to just kill off the huge segment of the population who end up on the negative side. As this is completely contrary to our instincts about what we want morality to be, and completely impractical to act on, it is no longer a very useful tool if one assumes that.
I do tend towards a variant of utilitarianism myself as it has a useful ability to weigh options that are both bad or both good, but for the reason above I tend to define "zero" as a complete lack of happiness/maximum of suffering, and being unhappy as having low happiness rather than negative (making a negative value impossible), though that carries it's own implications that I know not everyone would agree with.
Not necessarily. Someone dying isn't the same as someone not existing at all.* It does imply that the world would be better off if it stopped existing, and under some assumptions implies it'd be moral to, say, instantly end all of humanity. I'm not sure that these conclusions are necessarily "contrary to our instincts".
*one reason why this has to be true, is that if we didn't distinguish between those, then if an average life had positive value, it'd be immoral not to have as many children as possible, until the marginal value of an extra life fell to zero once again (kind of like how Malthus thought societies worked, except as a supposedly moral thing to do). That conclusion is something I do consider very contrary to my instincts.
I too am an utilitarianist, sure. I'm not sure I can possibly buy "maximum suffering and no happiness" being the zero point. I very strongly feel that there are plenty of lives that would be way worse than dying (and than never having existed, too). It's a coherent position I think, just a very alien one to me.