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I have heard from multiple people that eye contact is essential in letting a girl (or guy, I guess) know you're interested.

But what is the 411 when it comes to said eye contact? Do you keep looking until she does? Do you then keep staring? Or is like looking at the sun? What's the deal?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Any advice for autistic people who are uncomfortable with eye contact?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago

As far as I know I'm not autistic, but hate eye contact and just kinda decided to not worry about it? Eye contact is cultural anyway, and in some countries it's unusual or rude so I guess I just decided it's not that important to me. That's one option!

But for practical advice on improving if that's what you want to strive for I find it's easier to practice with someone you're comfortable with. Looking between their eyes while talking casually. Not like staring, but reminding yourself to look up occasionally during conversation. And increasing the length of time you hold eye contact until it's uncomfortable and look away. It'll become more natural to you over time :)

There's also videos available on YouTube that are for practicing eye contact but I found them creepy. My mistake was probably smoking weed beforehand, so maybe don't do that!

Best of luck to you!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

The image actually comes from an eye contact practise video

I don't know if it actually works or not. But I heard that looking between someone's eyes or slightly upon their forehead also helps.