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Most of my friends who are trans immediately got a nickname because it was easier to go to that instead of their dead name and then you just needed to eventually go from nickname to their new name.
Me too, I had a non-gendered nickname based on my dead name, and was going to just have my middle chosen name be a lovely name that fit that nickname. But then I decided I hated the nickname and got sour on the idea of "making it easy" for my parents to dead name me in their heart, while using a chosen name.
Ended up not having a middle name, which is cool because I get to "legally attest" to not having a middle name sometimes which I thought was interesting.