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At 85, Vonciel Gray decided to stop driving after a stressful experience, joining millions of older Americans facing a loss of independence. Her son, Kurt, a traffic safety expert, helps families navigate the difficult conversation about when to stop driving.

With an aging population, experts warn of a “mobility gap” as older adults seek alternatives to driving.

Joseph Coughlin’s MIT Age Lab explores how vehicle technology can aid or distract older drivers, yet acknowledges that tech can’t always replace the need for older adults to relinquish their keys for safety.

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[–] Apytele 30 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

On a related note, I've been thinking lately about how many older men have gone absolutely batshit on me for suggesting that they may not be able to safely pee standing up anymore. Its so hardwired in some of them that sometimes even bilateral amputees with enough dementia will insist that they need to stand up to pee. I've literally pulled back the blankets to show them their missing legs and they look right back up at me and keep yelling at me to get out of the way.

It's happened so much at this point that I'm very desensitized to it. They'll be threatening to kill me and I'm just "ah yes the good ol' standing piss argument." It's practically as developmentally normal as a toddler not being able to share toys or a teenager having an unstable personal identity. Not sure what the female equivalent is, most of the violence I receive from that population seems to relate to trauma / fear related to sexual assault; they have difficulty calmly accepting assistance toileting because they're worried I'm going to hurt them vs it being less common to be a pride issue with women. Although I suppose the pride just boils down to a fear of being taken advantage of for being weak.

TLDR; loss of independence is rough and in addition to the driving thing there's a few other interesting manifestations.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I'm a reasonably fit dude in his 30s and I sit down to pee because I'm lazy.

Also I got a shower bench because those fuckers are comphy.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Standing up to pee is probably connected in their head to being a man, so not being able to stand up and pee is a loss of their manhood.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

Toxic masculinity is deeply Boomer. We have all been tangentially affected by it for decades.

[–] Apytele 4 points 3 weeks ago

Bingo. This is my interpretation as well.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

The female equivalent is probably hoverers who piss all over the toilet seat