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Everyday angry is usually due to stupid and/or entitled people, but as a teen I experienced blind rage before and that's a lot harder to explain. You kind of blank out and go after someone, fast heart rate, high blood pressure, truly beast mode. That was usually from bullying or dealing with my alcoholic father, though.
Now a days anger is probably closer to irritation than anything. Which is kind of a shame, I used to use anger to get things done. I once was so angry at a teacher for an unfair C in an art class that I channeled that into the most haunted self portrait I think he ever saw for the final. I ultimately got an A. Does spite count as it's own emotion? Lol
Like it says, these emotions are "designed" to mobilize you and your resources so that sounds perfectly on-brand :) Irritation and frustration are great too, they seem like bridge emotions to anger that you encounter first often and can limit the fallout from if you attend to them before they progress to anger
The question I like to ask myself is "What is this emotion trying to tell me" and "What would things look like longer term externally and internally if the trigger kept happening but I didn't have the cue of whatever emotion like anger or fear or irritation" haha.
I'm notoriously good and becoming better by the day at like "Lets deal with this once and now and put it to bed" cuz I hate ongoing issues that could have otherwise been attenuated had I followed my instinct towards working it