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I've been seeing more often (and others have posted the same) that some of the elements of "Reddit etiquette" seem to be taking over here. Luckily I can still find discussion comments but it seems the jokes and general "downvote because I disagree" are slowly taking over.

So the question becomes is it the size or the functionality of the site? The people or popularity? What's your thoughts?

edit: should I change it to Lemmy-hivemind? Exhibit A: the amount of downvotes without a single explanation (guessing it's anything to do with Reddit being talked about).

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[–] sbv 18 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I think we need to consider the norms Lemmites enforce. From what I've experienced: it's often nitpicks ("I think one thing you said is wrong"), or mild insults when an opinion is outside our slightly-left-of-centre POV. Disagreement is rarely friendly, gentle, or constructive.

From what I've seen, we're great at getting the big stuff right - people react quickly against child porn or overt racism/insults. But we reply with the same anger if someone has an opinion different from ours.

I have a better time in small Reddit communities because people have more shared interests. Here our prime commonality is that we like FOSS and dislike Reddit.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

But we reply with the same anger if someone has an opinion different from ours.

Hey fuck you! That’s total bullshit and you know it!!

[–] sbv 8 points 3 months ago

Not a single comma. Tch tch tch.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

it's often nitpicks ("I think one thing you said is wrong")

I think this happens. I know I've done it but I've expressly stated my agreement with everything else but hey this one thing needs examination. I think sometimes people leave that part unsaid and maybe they forgot or maybe they just don't have good arguments against.

Note I'm not mentioning anything else. It's because I largely agree with what you've said or don't think a counterpoint would be helpful.

[–] sbv 4 points 3 months ago

At this point I start with a big "I agree" and state something about it, so we have some common ground. Then, if I have further questions/disagreement then I mention it.