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Any sexual relationship will rely on a foundation of some amount of friendship. A human connection, if you will. There's a reason the terms are "fuckbuddy" and "friends with benefits" and not just "sex toy"
If you want a sex toy just go buy a sex toy from the shop
What about hookups though? I'd say there isn't much human connection there, and certainly not friendship.
Realistically, in order to hook up you need the social skills that come from forming and maintaining human connections in order to not immediately make your perspective partner run for the hills the moment you open your mouth. Sure one might be able to get lucky in spite of a lack of any social experience, but that's about as likely as winning it big in lottery
I thought you meant friendship with the sexual partner, not as a skill / attitude with anyone. Nevermind then
I mean, I kinda meant both. Because you have to be not-offputting to have a second hookup with someone, and by that point you're already pretty much in a relationship of sorts. But to not be offputting you need some amount of social skills to begin with, so really its both.
But really I worded it the way I did because I can't tell if the person I was responding to is trolling or not
Yea, really not wanting friends would be unusual but I figure out if that's what you want, hookups are the only solution. If you have good looks enough and are not socially offputting.
Also, prostitutes. For this, you just need to not be socially offputting, and to have money.
Sorry I'm stuck overanalyzing solutions for a likely troll.
My father and mother weren't friends.
Mine weren't either. Unbearably miserable for everyone until they got divorced, then it was just regular miserable. Would not recommend.