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[โ€“] [email protected] 119 points 5 months ago (4 children)

I don't think there is a "dead giveaway". Plenty of kids can pass as adults online and plenty of adults seem like kids online. And sometimes with stuff like word usage/grammar/etc you can't tell if it's a child or someone who doesn't speak English very well or maybe an English-speaking adult who happens to type like that. There's a lot of different people in the world.

[โ€“] [email protected] 35 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yeah seriously, every time someone makes a generalization online "that subreddit is all 12 year olds anyway", "r/teenagers is mainly grown me", it really bothers me because no, you're just overconfident in estimating people's ages from text

[โ€“] [email protected] 23 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

I imagine that part of it comes down to motivation. I pretended to be an adult on a special-interest forum when I was twelve years old because I needed an escape from my miserable existence. At that time, I had no control over my life and every morning I woke up meant I had a new chance for traumatic shit to happen. I desperately needed to be someone else, so I took my time, researched shit, and avoided any conversation where I might be outed. I'm sure I didn't fool everyone, but I got some shocked responses when I went back as an adult and owned up to it.

Kids doing it for the authority boost or just as a childish fancy will be easier to spot. Kids doing it as a coping mechanism for their horrible lives will probably blend in a lot better.

[โ€“] Lofenyy 1 points 1 month ago

Damn. I know this life. I don't wish it on anyone, except those who exposed me to it...

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I can't get over ironically using stupid lingo, without being good at presenting it as ironic use...so I often seem like a child. I am certainly bad at forming sentences that are not stream of thought (with weird punctuation like parentheses containing clarification...like this...and overused ellipsis...)

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

It's interesting to meet someone else who also struggles with an overuse of parentheses and ellipses (I didn't know what they were called, thanks for that!).

This is a complete shot in the dark, but do you also happen to be on the spectrum? (I have nothing to base this on expect my theory that overclarification could be more common among neurodivergent people)

Edit: ellipsis -> ellipses

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Add to your knowledge- they are ellipses. A single ... is an ellipsis. Many words that end in "is" are pluralized as "es"

This is pronounced like iss versus eeze.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

I don't present as on the spectrum, but I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid. I haven't suffered from it much as an adult. I have heard that the parenthetical over clarification and typing as your thoughts would flow naturally is a sign of Autism in particular. I can control it when I focus, but if I am ranting it comes out in force.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

I have found the gen xers are the WORST at texting and writing in general. At least the ones I know.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I would die without autocorrect. I grew up with "mom, how do I spell (word)" and getting "sound it out", witch werks grate in Inglish...

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I grew up getting "Look it up!" and I still can't spell for shit.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

I HATED that one...look it up in the Dictionary....sure ok, let me look up a word I can't spell ...ffs!

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Ever watch a kid who grew up after smartphones try to type?