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Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I'm curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I'm a 50-year-old lady, and just last week some dood pulled over his truck to ask me if I was single. They don't go away, you're just a LOT less interested.

[–] clay_pidgin 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I can believe that for sure! That seems like a dating method with a low success rate.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Just drive around and ask random women if they're interested in a stranger in a truck. Can't lose.

But honestly if I were single it would take me a hot minute to find someone new, but I don't think I'd want it. Men are a LOT.

[–] clay_pidgin 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

A lot of humble awesomeness, in my case. Obviously.

I guess the truck method is like swiping on EVERYONE in a dating app. It only has to work once to be a good method!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

I've never online dated before. I'm too old for that shit. I can't imagine how crazy it would be. Are there any older people on those apps?

[–] clay_pidgin 3 points 5 months ago

No idea, I've never tried one. I've been married since before smartphones. There's a lot of variety in dating apps I hear about. If there's one just for farmers and one for Christian nationalists, there's gotta be one for adults.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Definitely, but it's mostly twenty to thirty somethings, some forties. My wife and I are nearly in our fifties and occasionally make a fake account to whatever service is big that year/decade to see what we've been missing. We don't feel like we're missing much.

A buddy of ours of similar age is a widower and, after many years, has decided to try dating again. He's meeting women but has variable results. I can't say he's having better or worse dates than when meeting people in person, but he's having a lot more of all the dates, so it's like they're more concentrated.