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[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (4 children)

I am a very peculiar sleeper. It needs to be fairly cold (63ยฐF is ideal), with a fan blowing directly on me for cooling and noise, with a chunky weighted blanket on top of a linen sheet that allows the fan air through, one pillow between my knees and a king length pillow on both sides, then my head is sandwiched between two more pillows, with an eye mask on and noise canceling headphones to make the fan sound far away.

But I sleep like a baby under these conditions as long as I've taken my melatonin.

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Jesus Christ on a bike either you're single or your partner must love you to death

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Fortunately it's the latter. I'm a lucky man in that regard. But he did have a lot of trouble adjusting when we started dating.

We disagree on our bed firmness. I had to buy a custom sized mattress topper that covers his half of the bed and is firm and cut the soft one I had in half to cover my side.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

That's marriage material. I wish you two a long and happy life with a lot of good sleep.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Wow that's a very detailed and specific setup. How long did it take you to figure out?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm 41 and figured this fully out maybe 3 years ago...

I had terrible insomnia when I was a kid, so sleep had always been something I was chasing. I also forgot to mention that I need a king sized bed, California King is preferred, but I'm 6'4" so that is more a factor of fit than comfort.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm the same height and have a queen. Maybe time for me to upgrade

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

California King is the best for my height, but I would recommend just a King as it's harder to find sheets and bed frames in the California King sizing.

But yeah going up from queen was a great thing for my ability to fit in a bed!

[โ€“] DaCrazyJamez 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This is freakishly familiar. Only missing trazodone and doxylamine.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Well I do miss trazodone, but it stopped working for me when I was taking it regularly. Never tried doxylamine, but for a while I was on mirtazapine and diphenhydramine for the sleep side effects only.

But I weened myself off them after reading they can cause dementia if taken for a prolonged period. A decade doesn't count as prolonged, does it? Eh, I'll be fine I'm sure.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

i hate to break it to you, i think its the melatonin thats making you sleep like a baby.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I wish!

Taking away one or more part of the puzzle makes it harder to sleep. Some are more important than others, like the pillow setup and the coldness.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah. I'm envious of the type of people who can sleep in random circumstances.

I'm basically a dude version of the princess from The Princess and the Pea. But it's because I'm horribly broken when it comes to sleep, not spoiled royalty.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

lol, that's quite the apt comparison. I've struggled with sleep myself, though i would hesitate to call it insomnia tbh. It's fine as long as my body can self regulate it. But the second it becomes an artificial schedule, all hell breaks loose and i start getting like 5 hours of sleep a day, plus weird napping routines which only make it worse.