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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/DetectiveJakePeraIta on 2023-12-18 21:06:51+00:00.

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I always overthink everything.

I studied theater together with this girl called Jay. I had a small group of friends back then, Jay and I really enjoyed each other’s company. There was this other girl who called me “her bestie” yes she and I always fought and she treated me more like a son than her friend, but Jay and I never fought it all the time we knew each other.

I graduated 2 years ago, that’s the last time I saw that friend group. Last year around August I saw Jay at the grocery store. She called my name and wanted a hug. Happy to see me. She even suggested a reunion because she was still in touch with the group. I loved seeing her again, but I fear I didn’t show it as much because I had something on my mind that day.

I would still love to see her again, to reconnect. Just with her though, I don’t really want to reconnect with the rest of the group. Maybe one other person I was pretty close with too but I’m pretty sure she done with me.

Jay has done a lot since we graduated. Started another education. She went to Africa on an internship. I have done absolutely nothing. After graduation I auditioned for a theater teacher education. One teacher there told me I hadn’t mastered the basics. Even though I was one of the best of my class, I still took that rejection really badly. Completely demotivated me.

So ashamed to admit it, but I’ve spend the past 2 years sitting at home, playing games. Feeling sorry for myself and doing nothing. I know I need to get a job, but I haven’t yet. Last time I saw Jay I told her I was looking for a job so she knows this, if she remembers.

I want to reconnect with her, but I’d be really ashamed. Because she has all these great new stories to tell me, and I have nothing at all. I cant really admit that I haven’t done shit since graduation, but I don’t want to lie either. So I keep wanting to send her a message to see if she wants to reconnect. But I keep postponing that because I have no job, but I haven’t been able to get a job yet either.

I am a pathetic bum, and I might be more lonely than I’d care to admit. Lost my grandma too this year, only have my mom left. Thanks to fights no other family left and I have lost all my friends too. The longer I wait to reach out to Jay, the slimmer the chance she’s still interested in a reunion I suppose. Because my life might be standing still, Her’s isn’t. And I am sure she has made a great many more friends over the years.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MJdigi_Mark on 2023-12-18 18:17:21+00:00.

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Well, The elevator to your success might be out of order but the stairs are always open.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/MoonFighterSun on 2023-12-18 17:38:15+00:00.

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Hello,

I need some advice as I am currently going through a phase where I feel I have just stopped improving.

I graduated college 2 years ago and currently have comfortable good paying job. My problem is I have lost all enthusiasm and have gotten addicted to my phone.

I am bot very social person, but I used to be so enthusiastic during my college years. I used to want to learn new things related to my major. Used to have bucket list if things that I did my best to achieve. But now I have it feels I am empty. I would make it clear that I am not depressed or nothing significantly bad have happened in my life that could cause this.

Currently I work in hybrid job. It is like I have no motivation left to improve myself and I hate it. Instead of taking initiatives or volunteering for new task at my job, I would just do same task. Rest of the time I would spend on my phone. Even my manager noticed that I have lost my curiosity and desire to learn new things.

Please advise on how to get my enthusiasm back and feel motivation.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/adrocz on 2023-12-18 16:50:21+00:00.

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So I’m going to get a bit winded here. Life has been rough. I’m sure it has for a lot of people. I’ve been up and down with weight and it aligns a lot with my major depression.

I’m 37 M with four kids and in my second marriage. Lost my job so I DoorDash until I find something good again. My wife doesn’t want me intimately right now and it’s been hard just getting interviews. Every week I deal with an ex who just belittles me at every chance she gets. I see a therapist 1-2 times a week and take depression meds and ADHD meds. I’ve been up and down with my weight but I’m starting to feel like it’s getting really bad. 5’8 250 or so lbs. I want to feel better and have a healthier body and I want to also finish the game I started developing. However right now it takes all my energy just to fight the thoughts in my head about being fat, ugly, worthless, useless etc.

No matter what I’m told it’s hard to believe otherwise when I look in the mirror.

What do I do? Like I desperately want to lose weight and be healthier and finish my personal projects but I’m just getting older and feel like a waste of space.

What can I do to push me over the edge? I’ll be honest I don’t even know if I am motivated enough to be in this survival state much longer. Wounds go deep, and with the situation with my wife and my job it feels like even if I made my game or lost weight nothing would improve.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/spiderinweb on 2023-12-18 16:34:45+00:00.

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I can be confident in my cooking skills but may lack fishing skills. I can be confident in riding a motorcycle but not in playing football. I may be good at cracking some jokes around my friends but not with the new date.

I don’t label myself as generally "confident" or "not confident" because of my ability to perform a single skill.

Generally, there are tons of social skills to learn: one-on-one, small talk, group settings, flirting, calibrated humor, deep conversations, asking for favors, professional conversations, leadership, public speaking, etc., etc… you can be good with some skills and maybe suck at some. And that doesn't mean you are an unconfident person, you are just not confident in some areas.

Before lebaling yourself, have you ever wondered if you were confident or not? What makes me a less confident person in the room? Or what makes a particular person confident? How can you tell? Many people ask themselves this question :

How does a confident person act? Well, Today, let’s see some signs that will help you determine if you, or someone you know is a confident person.

1. You are not much of a hesitating typeConfident individuals are known to be the conquerors, which means that they know what they want and how to get it. The first sign of someone who’s really confident is that you rarely hesitate because you chose a path and stuck to it instead of constantly jumping from one decision to another without making a clear choice on what you want to do.
2. You don’t beat yourself up for small mistakesThe moment a confident person makes even a tiny “mistake”, they recognize that by acknowledging the mistake and feeling shame. Sure you'll keep making mistakes, but you’ll keep learning from those mistakes to gradually be better. They believe that It is better than being a person who doesn't feel shame and doesn't learn.
3. You never try to be someone elseI think it's pretty clear that people who are confident don't try to act fake or copy others just to seem cooler or better because they know they're awesome just the way they are.Subscribe now
4. You stick to your ideas when necessaryBeing confident means accepting when you're wrong and being open to changing your ideas if they don't have any real value. But it also means knowing when to stick to your guns, even when other people disagree with you. Sometimes, you'll know you're right and they're wrong, and that's when you need to stand up for yourself and your beliefs. Don't let anyone convince you to give up on what you know is true.
5. You know it is good to be selfish sometimesRather than standing way too nice, you cut that crap and work on putting yourself first. Being selfish doesn't have to mean being an uncontrollable dick to everyone. It just means you know how to put yourself first, above anyone in the world.
6. You have a sense of direction/principle in lifeSo, basically, you gotta know what you want in life and should have a plan to get there. It’s hard to be confident about your life, and yourself, if you don’t even know where your life is going, and you’re not really in control.
7. You’re not easily influenced by what others sayThis is probably the biggest sign to tell if someone is confident or not, just check if other people can easily manipulate him. Being hard to influence means that you know who you are, what you want, and who to listen to. It means that you’re well aware that you are the only one who takes decisions because it’s your life, not anyone else’s.
8. You’re comfy with yourselfIn other words, you think you are actually good enough. This means that you really believe that you can do whatever you want and that you are good enough as a person without constantly needing approval or feeling inferior to other people you know. You can put it this way: you love being you.
9. You don’t pursue approval from othersMost people turn to others in order to know if what they’re doing is ‘right’, which means that people check if others like what they do to decide if they’re doing something good or not. If you’re genuinely confident, then you don’t need someone to tell you that you’re right, because you already know it.

Real confidence means living and deciding without concerns about others' opinions!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/ScepticalApe on 2023-12-18 11:38:59+00:00.

Original Title: To most of you, it might not be a big deal, but I'm celebrating one year of being free from alcohol today. Recently, I also wanted to try to kick my other bad habit. I have nobody to celebrate with, so I am celebrating with you guys. [Image]

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Glad-Room5715 on 2023-12-18 05:16:00+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/theboicory on 2023-12-18 03:50:47+00:00.

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Wondering if Reddit is the best place to find one? Edit: please only reply if you've actually used one and had success!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/theboicory on 2023-12-18 03:50:47+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Roach2112 on 2023-12-18 02:58:43+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Coffeeprincess94 on 2023-12-18 00:43:30+00:00.

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Hey everyone! 🎉 Are you as excited as I am about making 2024 an incredible year? If you're looking for that one word to define and guide your year, I've got just the thing for you!

I stumbled upon this super fun guide with a bunch of creative word-of-the-year ideas. It's perfect for setting those inspiring goals and adding a dash of excitement to your 2024 plans! 🌈

Whether you're aiming for growth, adventure, or just a lot of fun, there's something for everyone. Check it out and let's all share our words and ideas for the year!

🔗 Dive in here: www.taskslayerz.com/word-of-the-year-ideas/

Can't wait to hear your thoughts and see what words resonate with you all! 🌟

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Coffeeprincess94 on 2023-12-18 00:43:30+00:00.

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Hey everyone! 🎉 Are you as excited as I am about making 2024 an incredible year? If you're looking for that one word to define and guide your year, I've got just the thing for you!

I stumbled upon this super fun guide with a bunch of creative word-of-the-year ideas. It's perfect for setting those inspiring goals and adding a dash of excitement to your 2024 plans! 🌈

Whether you're aiming for growth, adventure, or just a lot of fun, there's something for everyone. Check it out and let's all share our words and ideas for the year!

🔗 Dive in here: www.taskslayerz.com/word-of-the-year-ideas/

Can't wait to hear your thoughts and see what words resonate with you all! 🌟

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Kaalba on 2023-12-17 04:13:35+00:00.

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hello, lets agree that i am not an expert, however these are my workouts, please tell me what i need to change or replace or add.

push1:

bench press 3 sets 15-20 reps then one set 3 reps (strength)

seated fly 3 sets 15-20 reps

standing one arm chest stretch.

incline bench press 3 sets 10-12 reps

cable one arm lateral raise 3 sets 15 reps

dumbbell standing overhead press 3 sets 8 reps

cable one arm triceps kickback 3 sets 15 reps

cable overhead triceps extension barbell attachment 3 sets 4-6 reps

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pull1:

cable wide grip lat pulldown 3 sets 15-20 reps

cable seated row (close grip attachment) 3 sets 15-20 reps

dumbbells shrug 3 sets 15-20 reps

cable face pull superset seated reverse fly 2 sets 15-20

cable bicep barbell curl 3 sets 15 reps superset dumbbell alternate standing bicep curl 3 sets 4-6 reps

cable reverse curl (forearms) superset cable standing back wrist curl 3 sets 12 reps

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arm1:

cable bicep barbell curl 3 sets 15 reps superset dumbbell alternate standing bicep curl 3 sets 4-6 reps

ez or normal barbell curl 3 sets 6 reps

cable one arm triceps kickback superset barbell skull crusher 3 sets 15-20 reps

triceps dip (imagine chest dip but being still not elevated) 3 sets 15-20 reps

dumbbell cross body hammer curl (forearm and biceps) 3 sets 15-20 reps

cable reverse curl (forearms) superset barbell standing back wrist curl 3 sets 15-20 reps

hanging (for grip strength)

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legs:

barbell squat 3 sets 15 reps

barbell romanian deadlift 3 sets 15 then 12 then 10 reps

seated leg extension 3 sets 15-20 reps

seated leg curl 3 sets 15-20 reps

standing calf raise machine 4 sets 15-20 reps

decline crunches machine superset planks 3 sets 15-20 reps

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push2:

dumbbell bench press 3 sets 15-20 reps

cable fly (middle) 3 sets 10-12 reps

standing one arm chest stretch.

chest dip (weighted if its easy) 3 sets 4-6 reps

dumbbell lateral raise 3 sets 10-12 reps

barbell standing overhead press 3 sets 8 reps

seated shoulder press machine 3 sets 8-10 reps

barbell skull crusher 3 sets 15-20 reps

cable triceps pushdown 4 sets 4-6 reps

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pull2:

pull up (chin ups) 4 sets 10-12 reps

machine seated row 4 sets 10-12 reps

dumbbells shrug 3 sets 4-6 reps

dumbbell preacher one arm curl 3 sets 15 reps

dumbbell alternate biceps curl 3 sets 8 reps

dumbbell cross body hammer curl (forearm and biceps) 3 sets 15-20 reps

standing barbell reverse curl 3 sets 6 reps superset barbell standing back wrist curl 3 sets 15-20 reps

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arm2:

cable bicep barbell curl 3 sets 15 reps superset dumbbell alternate standing bicep curl 3 sets 8 reps

barbell preacher curl 3 sets 6 reps

cable one arm triceps kickback superset barbell skull crusher 3 sets 15-20 reps

triceps dip (imagine chest dip but being still not elevated) 3 sets 15-20 reps

standing barbell reverse curl 3 sets 6 reps superset barbell standing back wrist curl 3 sets 15-20 reps

barbell revers wrist curl (arms on both legs) (seated) 3 sets 15 reps (wanna replace that)

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legs2:

seated leg press 3 sets 15 reps

dumbbell walking lunges 3 sets 3-5 reps

barbell deadlift 3 sets 12 reps and an extra 1 set for 3 reps (strength)

seated leg extension 3 sets 4-6 reps

seated leg curl 3 sets 4-6 reps

standing calf raise machine 3 sets 4-6 reps

decline crunches machine 3 sets 15-20

vertical or fully in front leg raise on the chest dip machine 3 sets 12-15

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Affectionate_Pear977 on 2023-12-16 23:39:43+00:00.

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Hey! I'm a senior in high school going into college soon, and I was looking for some advice from people in the corporate world.

I wanted to ask, what would you say are skills you can start developing in college that will make you stand out in a job environment? (Ex. Communication, Writing, etc.)

Skills other than simply just being good at the job you do? My post-college plan is to try and climb the corporate ladder once I graduate with a bachelors and maybe a masters later on if needed. As I know this is a really daunting and hard task, I came here looking for advice.

Thank you so much for everyone reading and your time!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/bgaddis1016 on 2023-12-16 23:10:39+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/catboy519 on 2023-12-16 20:55:44+00:00.

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As a result from burnout I have been procrastinating things for 2 years, even urgent important ones, so now my todo list is a giant todo list.

The psychological problem is: when my list gets bigger, I get less motivated to work on it. My goal is to have a (nearly) empty todo list once again, achieving this would be very rewarding and it is my main motivation to do the things on it in the first place. But knowing that it will take longer than a year to get it all done, and that is IF i can be productive..... makes me unmotivated.

This is called "delay discounting". Getting a reward today is psychologically more valuable than getting it next year. My subconscious thinks that achieving an empty todo list is a low value reward because it is so far into the future and I dont even know when/if I will achieve if. So this is why I feel very unmotivated to work on my tasks in the first place.

Self-rewarding wouldn't work for me. First of all I don't know what kind of reward I could give myself, second I would probably just cheat it and give myself the "reward" thing anyway because I have no self control. The only way a reward system could work for me is if its impossible for me to cheat it. But I dont know who could reward me in which way, lol.

So is there any way for me to feel more motivated to do the tasks on my todo list? Yes, obviously I know that achieving that great feeling of having done all of my list is 100% worth the effort, but my subconscious just disagrees with that because that amazing moment is so far into the future.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Ornery-Sheepherder74 on 2023-12-16 20:27:41+00:00.

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I recently made an insta to track some of my fitness stuff and follow inspiring folks. If I’m going to spend time on social media, it might as well be somewhat beneficial. What accounts do you follow that help your mindset?

My goals are fitness, weight loss, and motivation centered, but I’m opened to anything. Thanks!

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Professional-Level97 on 2023-12-16 16:23:50+00:00.

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does anyone know about a community that functions similarly to a social media but for improvement where you have a page and you post your daily progress on it and people can follow you and encourage you?

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/anonymouspsy on 2023-12-16 15:44:25+00:00.

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First time outside the US for 3 weeks in Thailand and Vietnam - I hear a lot about "finding yourself" and "growth mindset" while traveling.

Is there anything I can do to influence this? Maybe journaling each day? Trying to think of my goals for 2023? Dunno.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Fun_Rich1454 on 2023-12-16 14:56:08+00:00.

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My life ended up in failure until now. I loved someone. Didn't work. Failed exams for 4 years. 2020 came and covid wiped out all hopes.

Mustering courage, got back to school for business studies. Not having the confidence for job i studied too hard and after 3 years managed to score 9.1 cgpa. It took a lot of therapy in the form of meditations from the Sadhguru app since that was the only thing affordable along with his videos which seem to make a lot of sense to someone who has failed a lot.

I am concerned how to go about it from here. Though I was able to succeed thanks to my parents and support of everyone but I am really feeling too hesitant to go for a job. Currently I spend my time volunteering with St Broseph and Isha foundation but I know it's only time before I cannot maintain this lifestyle anymore. I am happy volunteering and giving back to society in gratitude of what it has given to me, but I am now 26, can you guide how to get over the fear of handling job situations, I am not sure if I can fit in or if I should become a full time volunteer. Honestly I never thought I would actually complete my studies. Please guide.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Equivalent-Mess-8417 on 2023-12-16 08:21:27+00:00.

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Been really lazy. I feel like I've just been going downhill everyday. I just really don't give a shit about school.

I used to be one of the toppers at the start of the year. Then, I started being addicted to sims 4 and neglected my studies. My grades went down after that. I remember I was so upset that time, like it actually caused physical pain for me. I feel like i was drowning

After that exam though, I feel like i got really demotivated?

I just really want to ignite that initial fire back in me again. But for some reason I just feel really apathetic. My grades this time got even worst than the last. Yet, I found comfort in knowing that 'I was doing OK compared to some of my other classmates' but the truth is, I'm not doing OK. My grades is horrendous compared to my grades at the start of the year. Yet, I don't feel anything. I don't feel sad, I don't feel disappointed, I just don't really give a shit. And I don't know why

Problem is I have a really big exam coming up. I can't let this continue anymore

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Glad-Room5715 on 2023-12-16 06:35:42+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/getmotivated by /u/Pojoba01 on 2023-12-15 21:17:09+00:00.