Hey I'm in pretty much the same boat so here's hoping for both of us ๐ sometimes you just gotta pick a day and go do it I guess :<
I actually met some pretty cool people in a language class I took after college, don't know if there are any near you but class environments are generally pretty low stress.
Ah I gotcha that's a bit rough lol, maybe if you are able to find some cool people, it'll get you used to it so you'll be able to talk more easily with the boss-not-boss xp
That's fine for you, but people who are judged or seen as dangerous just for the way they are (i.e. often just being a man) might be sensitive to things that imply they're dangerous because they probably experience it in their daily lives too (a kid being less trusting towards you, a person taking a wider path around you). Angry responses usually come from a place of hurt, these are would-be allies who are just reading it differently.
Not gonna lie that may have been the most depressing thing I've ever read. Please read a book on ptsd if you think it's not comparable to the fear of being killed. "The body keeps the score" is a great book which includes cases caused by emotional abuse.
I mean these comments are pretty insane but cmon you know what you said is not equivalent, this meme uses othering language and people got mad at it because it groups them with people they likely despise. Why can't we just be on the same team? If I say "being outgoing is a vibe too bad women love emotionally abusing people" I sincerely hope you wouldn't defend that.
๐ thank you for making this comment so I didn't have to.
Any groups or anything near where you are? Usually people make clubs or anything, even if it's something you hate you'll usually find it fun if there are good people there. Also just going to a park (if there is one) and reading, you can find some cool people who want to chat.
As for dating coworkers, you know your situation better than me, but most people won't care that much if you just say hey this coffee shop is pretty good if you want to go, gives them an easy out (I'm busy) and doesn't put too much out there.
I think lemmy self-selects for passionate (and autistic/adhd) people, so either way you end up with those kind of responses. Lemmy.world is where all the redditors ended up, so if it happens a lot I would block that instance. Other people will say "this is totally wrong!!! but here's why" which maybe I'm just used to because I have a few autistic friends lol
just now realizing everything I have done in my life in trying to contribute less plastic and waste less is not even 0.00001% compared to the environmental damage these executive orders are going to do.
Not the one you responded to but it's a couple things, generally just lungs feeling inflamed, difficulty taking a full breath, way more sensitive to air quality / air temperature, and a bit of autonomic (I have to use a cpap to fall asleep now because sometimes I just stop breathing as I'm falling asleep)
Pretty interesting question sorry all the redditors are downvoting this and giving you fantasy land looks don't matter replies. A couple comments nailed it, if they're out of your league then improve yourself until you're in their league, or lower your standards. Looks are just one aspect of attractiveness, being an interesting/funny/enjoyable person to be around has a huge impact. Just bring something else to the table to bridge that gap.
If you don't want to do that and don't want to lower your standards, you can't really expect them to go for you. Just have to put yourself in places where maybe an opportunity comes to you or you happen to click with someone ยฏ\(ใ)/ยฏ
I mean while most of this is true, saying looks aren't important to long term happiness is just not the reality we live in. Living life as someone that people don't like looking at grinds you down, ask anyone who is/was overweight.
You can do a lot to improve it, by wearing nice clothes being healthy etc, and you can make up for it by being the funniest one in the group, being the most interesting etc, but you're also asking this of people who will likely have the hardest time dealing with strangers. I experienced a massive difference in how people treated me after I started going to the gym, just a lot more people smiling at me and treating me well when I hadn't said a single word.
When the world is friendly to you when you do nothing, it's a lot easier to be confident and funny and happy, and vice versa. I'm not saying to be doomer "there's nothing you can do," but just don't ignore people when they tell you it DOES impact their lives negatively, even in the long term. Not trying to be negative it's just frustrating when people take it from "this is not what's holding you back from being with good people" (true) to "this has barely any effect" (false)
Have you never lived with anyone who cooks? I've had my friends say this to me and ive said this to them and I'm not their wife lol
I suppose the reason I don't fully believe that is if that were the case, they would say "I'm not a fan of these things but I think trump is doing mostly a good job." They don't, they say he is a great president doing a great job, while minimizing or choosing to ignore the 9/10 things trump has done against their values. They won't list what he's done, just that he's doing a great job.
It's why it feels vibe based rather than anything he's done or will do, because so long as he seems to be on "our side," nothing he does actually matters because they just won't look at it, and if it did happen it's not that bad, and if it is that bad then he had to do it.