loonsun

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[–] loonsun 1 points 8 months ago

You are literally talking in a group about a neurodivegence, a type of mental health issue which makes us function differently than others. This means there are behaviors we can't easily change due to how our neurological functioning.

Do you truely believe you are in 100% in control of every little action you do? That no underlying cognitive barriers exist to make you do things or not? Are you some type of robot or a human being?

Also, do you even have ADHD? If you do, you must either be some evolved specimen above us mere mortals or you lack the empathy and self awareness to understand that people can sometimes struggle to change themselves.

I can both have struggles to change my behavior and not hate myself at the same time, it's called accepting myself for who I am.

[–] loonsun 1 points 8 months ago (2 children)

You are literally telling a psychologist that you know better about how this works. Also I'm not unhappy with myself, I love myself. I also know there are things I can do to improve and am seeking advice from my community to do so. Your advice basically boils down to "just stop lol" which would not be helpful at all to anyone for anything.

I also specifically asked for resources, not your opinions, so do keep them to yourself in the future.

[–] loonsun 4 points 8 months ago

That actually did help me a lot, I think the feeling of finishing a page even though you technically didn't helps keep up the satisfaction as you don't feel like there is this monumental amount of reading left to do. I know with books sometimes I'll be reading, stop, look at the amount I have left, and it discourages me to continue.

[–] loonsun 3 points 8 months ago (12 children)

That's definitely too basic. I work on a screen all day and use my phone for communication as much as anything. I could block apps but that hasn't changed my behaviors. Also we have a neurodivegence which inherently can't distinguish the importance of stimuli so I just replace one distraction with another.

[–] loonsun 1 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Yeah I do have one and the other commenter idea of having it in the bathroom is a good idea. Though I do have a lot of physical books I want to reach that are psychology and programming related. So trying to more figure out those.

Though on my e-reader I right now have 3 books 33% finished 😂 (though two are anthologies of multiple books or stories so at least there is that)

[–] loonsun 8 points 8 months ago (22 children)

Are there any resources on how to potentially improve this? I know audiobooks, but I do really want to actually read. I did talk to my therapist in the past about it but they were no help.

[–] loonsun 4 points 8 months ago

Which is kind of what the point is. Start it without a habit, form a habit of playing that makes you want to do the action of exercise

[–] loonsun 4 points 8 months ago

Hilarious labour law violation 😂

[–] loonsun 6 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Your average small time HR person is either basically the admin for an entire company or some office grunt who just fell into the job. I'm really unsurprised by this as an Organizational Psychologist I've basically seen it all in terms of terrible practice.

[–] loonsun 12 points 8 months ago (4 children)

Yeah most résumé analysis is done through an ATS not raw ChatGPT, those have their own issues but they aren't just LLMs processing your résumés

[–] loonsun 5 points 8 months ago

This is actually a well studied phenomenon in research as autistic people have been shown not to have worse social communication or empathy but differently structured kinds that are sometimes incompatible with neurotypical people (I'd go find some papers but im typically this from bed in the morning)

Also if you're looking for resources on how to best support and work with neurodivergent people I highly suggest you pick up The Canary Code by Dr. Ludmila Praslova, it's probably the best text on the subject to date: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/742858/the-canary-code-by-ludmila-n-praslova-phd/

[–] loonsun 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

The answer is they are not but it's more about proximity and shared experience. No two neurodivergent people are the same and those with different divergences sometimes horribly clash in terms of communication styles. However two autistic people may have more in common in terms of communication styles and shared experience to communicate far more easily than with a neurotypical person.

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