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WPATH: The World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), formerly the Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association (HBIGDA), is a professional organization devoted to the understanding and treatment of gender identity and gender dysphoria, and creating standardized treatment for transgender and gender variant people. (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_Professional_Association_for_Transgender_Health)

HRT: Transgender hormone therapy, also called hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or gender-affirming hormone therapy (GAHT), is a form of hormone therapy in which sex hormones and other hormonal medications are administered to transgender or gender nonconforming individuals for the purpose of more closely aligning their secondary sexual characteristics with their gender identity (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender_hormone_therapy)

But yeah I'm ~235lbs/106kg guy, and I don't like how I look most days in the mirror in a boring t-shirt and shorts, let alone trying to be desirable, so I'm kinda setting myself up mentally for disappointment. We shall see.

Sounds like me a year ago xD

Try find something that suits your figure; fem clothes can be quite good at camouflaging and distracting from problematic areas if one gets the right stuff.

And it drastically boosts self image when you found clothes you feel comfortable in, even if only in certain situations.

And my personal experience in case you don't like your face (I didn't, but I've got gender-related dysphoria in that regard): these femboy-cat-face-masks; wear them if you try out or take pictures in dresses. Allows you to focus on the clothes instead your face. After you found clothes you like with that mask on, you might take a look at some basic makeup. Nothing too fancy, but a bit of foundation, powder, minimalistic eyeshadow and mascara can do wonders.

But essentially: Try it! Do yourself a favor and try it! I wish I would have given in sooner instead of always thinking "nah, won't suit me anyway and I will just look like a dude in a dress". Wearing stuff like that played a huge part in realizing who I am.

(And it gave me a reason to loose some weight. 103kg->88kg since December)

And obviously: Should you find out in the end that fem clothes are just not your thing; that's fine as well! But if the idea was already in your head: try it ^-^

Just do it.

There are many large people that look beautiful. You have to search for the right clothes.

I assume from your comment that you're maybe a bit chubby; that's no shame. Many chubby people look wonderful in fem clothes.

You maybe should go for something more comfortable than the sexy secretary look, but (unless your suuuuper overweight) there will be something that's suiting your figure. Just google some guides for transfeminine clothing and try some stuff. Many of us wanna wear feminine clothing while having similar issues. A love for food is not depending on the gender ;)

Btw: My personal recommendation are long black skirts from the steampunk/goth/pseudo-victorian niches. They often have enough accessories and other highlights to distract; and they don't look all that bad if one is a bit larger

This is a meme about trans women, please don't conflate us with femboys.

Sounds for me like:

"femboys exist, but we are not the same"; not "femboys do not exist. They're just in denial"

(and I do agree with the first; not with the second)

Baby-Transfem here, started HRT literally last week:

Until last friday I was suicidal, constantly depressed and full of self-hate I couldn't understand.

Since I got my first dose estrogen my mental health drastically improved (as did some other hormone-related body functions that only need the hormones in my blood but not necessarily a prolonged exposure).

I learned from my doc that some transpersons have a brain structure of their non-assigned sex and then show exactly my pattern of relief; meaning my brain was actually born to be estrogen- instead of testosterone-dominated. (which seems to be based on the hormones oned mom exposed one during 3-4th and 10-14th week of infancy. One periods influences the gender of the brain, the other the sex of the general body)

So while I see where you are coming from, and I heavily prepare myself for all the sexism that will probably bring me back to earth as soon as I visually feminize; I can attest that HRT improved both drastically for me (for now)

(un)fortunately HRT does not remove your beard ;)

Wanna be a beautiful girl with a wonderful shiny beard?

There is a chance!

(Altho having specific physical goals in mind on HRT is more a gamble; and obviously (unfortunately, but it is what it is) a beard on a girl will often lead to weird looks and remarks.)

In another comment you clearly stated that femboys are not the same thing as trans.

And now you want to push the transfem label onto a non-afab person just because they admit to wear gender-non-conforming clothes?

Not necessarily

You could twist the rules.

Instead of hearing "hit" you get handed the shot you just hit

all these new names for old mechanics.

Back in my time we called it "multi-classing"

Probably AuDHD (both)

In Elden Ring, one could argue jumping into the tutorial was the first wrong choice altogether.

(dunno, I skipped it accidentally and came back a short time later. I did not need that roadblock...)

Why are people so surprised?

There is money to be made, and we're not used to seeing cashcows beeing left alone