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I mentioned it because I've personally chatted up someone wearing one before, so it does totally work at certain nerdy conventions, as does carrying a Horga'hn.

Ok so yes looking like Henry Cavill helps but how do you expect to go on a date with someone you like without asking them out? An amulet of Mara?

Ok

I'm against 15 year olds being depicted as sexy in media developed by adult men, yes.

HARD disagree about Amazon. It's nobody's friend but most especially it's terrible for buying clothing. For one, just about everything the search algorithm will show you is mass produced at the most cut throat profit margin imaginable, which means even if you ignore the moral complexities of supporting businesses with unethical labor practices, heavy metal contamination, and dangerous chemical dyes, you're almost definitely getting crappy quality clothes that will not fit well and will not last. Not only that but the pictures are, with very few exceptions, extremely misleading or of different products entirely. The products they list seem like bargains because of their marketing but you get exactly what you pay for or even worse, and you end up spending way too much money on something that will end up in the trash within a year or look terrible on you or both.

There are even more reasons not to buy clothing on Amazon, including that most returns you make for size or color go straight to a landfill, but I have only so many minutes in my day to rant about fast fashion.

If you don't know what you like yet, or what your style is, try going on FB marketplace or Craigslist and look for a closet clean out. This is the season for yard sales too. Try to find someone listing things in roughly your size (they sometimes will say "lots of XL clothes!" ) and then you can pick up giant bags or whole bins of random clothes for not even 10 dollars.

If you score a haul or two like that and get a chance to play dress up and experiment, you can figure out what you like on your body. What kind of necklines do you feel are flattering, what silhouettes, what length skirts or sleeves etc. Once you have a better idea of what you actually like on you, you can move on to shopping at thrift stores. There, you can keep an eye out for pieces that fit the profile of clothing you decided you liked. Not all thrift stores let you try on clothes and you might not feel confident enough to throw it on over what you're wearing, so be prepared to buy, try, and maybe return.

Try to go for higher quality items made of natural materials. You should aim for as little polyester, nylon, acrylic or spandex as possible. Look for cotton, linen, and wool, rayon and viscose are ok too. Feel the clothes and see if they have weight to the fabric, and structure to them. Good quality clothing has construction and patterning that makes them fit a body better than just a sack or a rectangle. Look for clothes with linings and complexity.

Hopefully you will be able to build a starter wardrobe of some good core pieces that you love!

Goodwill is ubiquitous but if you're in America, rural areas should have church thrift shops or animal shelter thrift shops. They rely on donations to raise money for good causes and while they won't have as much inventory, they are extremely motivated sellers. Goodwill, Value Village and Savers are big corporate chains with a lot of stuff and variety, but sometimes you can't beat a little church thrift shop for a bargain.

Sounds like you've had mostly good experiences with strangers, which is frankly quite nice. And obviously, you had a strong bond with at least one male, who listened to you and wanted to work together with you. He understood you, and it's just sad that he stopped being your friend when those pesky crewmembers cured the Hex Virus.

As others have said, it's a life long thing, but a lot of the patterns can be brought on in people who don't have it with consistent sleep deprivation and a state of tiredness and exhaustion. If you're starting to relate more and more to ADHD memes well into adulthood, try to get a few nights of good sleep!

Yes, he said he didn't like feeling like a kid next to me 🤷‍♀️

Found it really funny that in a green text meme post that was basically "-want to be a woman -don't have dysphoria" that when someone said they had the same sentiment as OP there was instantly someone in the comments saying they might be trans.... as opposed to, you know, just already being a woman 😂

Gratitude, even for little things. A purposeful and deliberate focus on things I'm happy to enjoy in my life and taking moments to really acknowledge them and soak in that feeling.