MystValkyrie

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Comfy cotton shorts and a camisole and wool socks. In the fall and winter, I wear sweatpants instead, and if it's really cold, I throw on a cardigan. All in black so they go well with each other or as part of other outfits. It's modular and minimalist and I spent way too much time thinking about and perfecting sleepwear over the past decade lol.

But I specifically like that they're not technically pajamas because, like OP, I feel weird if I'm in pajamas all day. So the bottoms can double as lounge clothes if necessary and pair decently with most of my tops for a super casual look on a lazy day.

I actually don't own any traditional pair of pajamas, which is all right by me.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I'm trans and I see where you're coming from. I was boycotting the game ahead of launch because I didn't want to support J.K. Rowling, who has based her career off of making our lives harder.

But...it's been two years. We lost the battle. The boycott led to the Streisand effect and the game sold insanely well. Trans people got a ton of negative press converage. We were all made out to be intolerant and cruel because one trans person said something that made the GirlfriendReviews lady cry. It seemed like after that, GamerGate 2 went into effect and so many games with diversity are getting preemptively reviewbombed, like Dragon Age: The Veilguard, leading to layoffs and shuttered development teams, while games like Black Myth Wukong with a known sexist director are insanely popular.

Hogwarts Legacy seems like such a small issue now. Now it's 2025 and we're quickly losing all our rights in an ongoing Constitutional crisis. These days, while I'd prefer if cis people buy the game used and add disclaimers to the posts they make about it, I'm too exhausted to care about the Wizard game and who chooses to play it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

There has never been a situation where I haven't been the one who does all the chores.

So I'm dating a woman now who I live with and I thought, "Now I'll finally get an equal distribution of household labor." Lol nope. But everything else in our relationship is great other than that.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I think pop culture and fandom gives celebrities too much power over public consciousness, both when they appear nice and when it's been discovered that they're awful. But, at the end of the day, they're just regular humans that the rest of us treat as gods.

I don't know Neil Gaiman, Johnny Depp, or Amber Heard personally, so I don't really have opinions or looked into those matters. It's awful when people are abused, and I hope victims get the help that they need from people around them and within the legal system, which I know is imperfect. Personally, I'm not part of the jury or know any of these people, and I'm not in a position where I can help, so it's a lot more mental bandwidth than I can personally handle. Sometimes I worry that celebrity drama, and the reports of violence that sometimes comes with that, is a form of entertainment for some people. But I also realize for other people, following drama is a way to confirm if justice has been served, or analyzing a victim's lived experiences for self-protection against wolves in sheeps' clothing, so I'm not judging anyone. What I'll say is if someone in my life or who lives in my city needs help, I'm there for them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

My 15-year-old self probably wouldn't recognize me, but would be okay with me being a woman. I would have transitioned earlier had I known it was possible, and I always had a "be true to who you are" mentality from the start.

I got my dream job and met my soulmate later than I hoped, so I hope past me isn't a perfectionist. The wait was worth it. I'm not living in my dream city, but where I ended up is very similar.

Past me would be sad that I'm not in a band, and I hope she would understand that chronic acid reflux killed my dream of continuing as a concert saxophonist. I've started over and am learning piano instead. I'll get there if she'll be patient. The tradeoff is that I realized I can kind of sing, which would make her really happy...except I'm a baritone and not an alto. But that's okay. It's a step up.

I think she'd be most glad that I faced my demons. I'm not sad all the time anymore. The social anxiety never totally went away, but I can carry a conversation with new people, and I can easily pick up a phone without having a panic attack. I got out of that awful relationship, learned to stand up for myself, and realized a relationship isn't a requirement for happiness.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

Presumably, there would be no dirt, since water cleans dirt off of foxes. spinny_fox, fox, spinny

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Today I, a northerner, learned "hoecake" is a type of food and not some derogatory insult.😅

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 days ago (1 children)

This will be me someday. 😁

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

https://tastesbetterfromscratch.com/5-minute-whole-wheat-pancakes/

I love whole wheat, so I take this recipe and use brown sugar instead of honey to make it sweet. It's healthy and delicious, and goes great with tofu scrambles.

 

So "genderpocalypse" is a typically postapocalypic, but not always sci-fi subgenre where one gender survives and another gets some disease, turns into a zombie, disappears, etc. Sometimes there's meaningful reflection on the relationships between men and women. Sometimes it can be really trashy.

I noticed among the books I'm aware of, I can't think of any where trans women are treated the same as other women, whether through the established rules of the story or through specific confirmation in the book. So this typically means that if an author wants to explore a woman-only society, they inadvertantly or otherwise depict all the trans women dying in the process. I have those listed below to head off those being suggested. That doesn't mean I think any book that establishes the genderpocalypse based on birth sex is inherently problematic or anything -- I think The End of Men handles it really well. But I was wondering if anyone knew about any stories in this genre that bases it off of gender and not sex.


Sleeping Beauties by Stephen King: The sickness tied to women falling asleep is tied to chromosomes, so trans women would stay awake based on the establed rules of the story.

Y: The Last Man by Brian K. Vaughan: All the trans women die with the men.

Afterland by Lauren Beukes: All the trans women die of prostate cancer along with the men.

The End of Men by Christina Baird: The virus in the book targets trans women and men, but there is a trans woman character and it's depicted sympathetically, in terms of the dysphoria that would come from a y-chromomosome disease targeting them.

Manhunt by Gretchen-Felker Martin: Men and trans women turn into mindless zombies, unless the trans women eat licorice, for some reason.

The Men by Sandra Newman: All men and trans women mysteriously disappear one day, despite the title.

Femlandia by Christana Dalcher: A non sci-fi apocalyptic example. The premise is that society and economics collapse at the hands of men, leading men and women to segregate and form separate societies. In the book, trans women are kept out of womens' societies.

 

Hi all,

I’m going on a backpacking trip in a month, and the only tucking underwear I’ve ever heard of is LeoLines and TomboyX, but I might as well ask if there’s anything else. Bonus points if it uses a material like merino wool.

I use both brands for normal daily use, but Leolines is made from cotton and TomboyX is polyester, both of which are not great for temperature and odor control during outdoor trips.

Tucking the old-school way sounds super confusing, so I’d rather not resort to that.

 

Hi all,

I'm going on a backpacking trip in a month, and the only tucking underwear I've ever heard of is LeoLines and TomboyX, but I might as well ask if there's anything else. Bonus points if it uses a material like merino wool.

I use both brands for normal daily use, but Leolines is made from cotton and TomboyX is polyester, both of which are quite bad for temperature and odor control.

Tucking the old-school way sounds super confusing, so I'd rather not resort to that.

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