Are you saying PC still has a used games market?
That's not what you claimed, you said Valve killed the used PC games market. Valve made a system where selling old copies is not currently viable/popular. You can still buy physical PC games, and you can still sell them. Finding used copies is hard, though- but great news, before Steam existed, finding used PC games was still hard. In fact, it is now arguably easier to find used PC games on the internet.
Ok, I admit that this is what their fans do, not Valve itself.
I've never once heard a claim remotely similar to this, sounds 100% made up
Are you saying you can ignore Steam updates or game updates now?
Always could.
Every one of your bullet points is an extreme stretch. The only one I could see as a negative- instead of just you making good practices sound evil- is selling accounts. But they ban the selling of accounts due to other legal ramifications. It isn't unusual for any site to ban the selling of accounts.
Epic agreed to follow the rules before the ban, not the other way around. In fact, the email cited was February 23rd, over two weeks ago.
Apple 100% made the move in bad faith, and are saving face with "we decided to unban them because they agreed to follow the rules".