Cagi

High protein pulses have more than other veggies but less than meat, especially processed meat.

"And it was a baby ox!"

Just wait till you hear how Lemmy "deletes" things. Illegal revenge and child porn, genocidal hate speech, everything is stored forever and in some apps, not even obscured.

A real "don't look up" moment when the world is ending but they try to blame screen time on everyone's poor mental health.

The grass is always greener on the other side. The life described does not exist in 50-150k cities. I live in a 500,000 population small city 40 minutes outside of a major one. I used to live in the major one. Everything you described about "city life" is what I miss about living downtown in a major city because I don't have it here. Even within the major city's limits, it's only close to downtown that those city living benefits actually exist on a scale to be useful for more than just a couple errands.

Most casual convos with strangers I've had have happened on public transport but again, only in the major city. The small city public transport is used by people too drunk or poor afford a car, because a car is necessary, and aren't in the mood to chat (I'm too poor to drive, I don't want to chat in the gross, mismanaged hour long bus trips to go somewhere it takes 15 minutes to drive to). In the real city it's used by everyone because it's faster and lazier than driving. People who are good at public transport don't work for small cities. And that's true for most things, especially the city government. Good city councilors and employees get better paying work in nicer places if they can. The small city and everything in it is left being run by people not good enough to make it elsewhere.

Your family is right. Unless you move to the downtown core of a city most people in the world have heard of, you still need to do everything you still do except there's less nature and character and more grumpy assholes who wish they lived in a smaller town or bigger city.

Ha ha ha, I actually spent some time considering whether or not to use that expression at all. I was going to make a more obscure pun about spilling tea incorporating your quest for tea, but then I remembered what sub this is and decided to sit the split the difference and use it in a way the context will hopefully give it away. I'm glad I didn't go with my instinct for terrible jokes and muddy the message!

Overhearing people talk is not eavesdropping. Listening more closely because the conversation is a break in your trust is natural, if they try to pull a "but you were eavesdropping!" tell them if they want a private conversation then to have it in a private place, not a communal area in earshot of the hall outside your room.

Did you make it clear this was confidential, or was it just assumed? If you explicitly told them to keep it secret and they did not, then say just what you said here. You happened to be coming down for a cup of tea when you overheard a betrayal of your confidence. If you are frustrated, let that give a backbone and set a firm boundary, but don't let it put words in your mouth and start saying things that will make them defensive. As soon as someone puts their guard up, the conversation is not going to go anywhere productive.

If you didn't explicitly tell your mom this was to be kept under wraps for now, then lesson learned. You need to have a polite conversation with her and everyone she told that this is personal info not to be shared. Always explicitly set boundaries, assumptions never work, even doctors and therapists sometimes eff up and assume someone knows more than you want them to and spill the beans.

No matter what, your family loves you and only wants you to succeed in life. Spilling your tea was likely done out of an effort to help you in the big picture, misguided or not. For me, once I was comfortable sharing my neurodivergence with my family, life got easier as they were able to take that into account in our relationship. But I understand it's your call, and if you need to come to terms with your diagnosis first, that's perfect reasonable and those in the loop should be made aware of how hurtful it is to betray that trust. Nothing a polite but firm conversation can't solve.

No one is forcing men to be more fragile.

The only emotion men are allowed to express is anger. Being angry all the time is extra manly.

Oh yes, there's so much myth surrounding him, most of which is pure praganda. But he would not have executed. The allies had a lot of respect for him, much of the modern myth is rooted in Allied discussions about Rommel. Between that and Nazi propaganda, his image is much cleaner than reality, which unfortunately remains ambiguous. He doesn't deserve the veneration he receives but it'd be hugely enlightening to hear his post war break down. Even liars like Speer still provided valuable insights in their post war comments.

When I was 12 that would be such a treat. Well done!