Don't mean this as a gotcha, but a genuine question as I see many people talk as if Lemmy isn't a social media
Do you not consider Lemmy a social media?
The "are forums social media?" debate has been pointlessly raging since the term "social media" first popped up.
Personally they seem pretty different to me, but I wonder if it's an age thing like if you didn't grow up with forums you maybe think of them as just another form of the same thing, whereas if you experienced both worlds you see them as very different? Idk this is just a random bedtime hypothesis.
I think the big difference is that forums are focused on conversation and sharing information which can be positively stimulating.
Other social media like Facebook or Twitter do not get used in the same way and only serve to share extreme opinions, or compare your life to the shallow posts of others.
This is a bit dramatic considering not everything on those sites is so negative, but I see a lot more of that elsewhere and not as much on forum sites.
To me anything that fosters doom scrolling is social media, so lemmy is no exception. If I were feeling like how OP describes I would certainly take a break from lemmy.
lemmy is social media
For those who think I can enjoy my PC and life. I code, design electronic devices, play with ai. But because of depression, nothing makes me happy. Only when I overdose drugs it is better. Life bbecomes more enjoable. However I can't overdose drugs every day. Sometimes I go outside, walk along a river, but it doesn't help. I still want to die.
I am the OP
I got out of a six year long depression 5 years ago. I went to the doctor stating I needed help, desperately. I had quite a few therapy sessions, and it wasn't very fun, but I focused on what approach seemed to have effect on my mental state and used that to break free. Totally worth it.
I don't know where it's from, but: "If you're going through hell, keep walking."
You got this.
If you're going through hell, keep walking.
This is what I will do. But if it doesn't get better then in a few years I will kill myself.
I hope things work out for you friend. Best of luck.
Thanks you! ⊂(・﹏・⊂)
If this was my kid, then I’d be grateful. Not that they’re depressed but that they were this open with me. Talking about this shit with someone you love and trust makes a big difference even if they don’t want any advice.
My friend still brags to me about buying the newest top tier Ti graphics card every other year and his water cooling setup, while also saying he can't afford to move out of his parent's house at 30. I spent like $400 on my graphics card, which maxes out basically every game I play. You only need high specs for the very uninspired generic triple A games that get copy and pasted every year. I'm loving Balder's Gate 3 right now without a million dollar rig.
Just want to point out that Baldurs Gate is also a triple A game, they have 400+ people working on it. There are also many amazing triple A games out there, like Cyberpunk
Budget wise it is. There's definitely great triple A games that come out that are an exception from the Far Crys and Call of Dutys. I was at least able to beat Cyberpunk on my budget with medium settings. But as a consumer, stuff like ray tracing is just a gimmick that adds absolutely nothing for me lol. It's just something people use to justify outrageous purchases imo.
Yeah I upgrade when I need it to run a game I want to play. Recently broke 8 gigs of ram several decades after I should’ve
Now u can run 2 chrome tabs
sure, but you could also do one better and uninstall chrome
Ew chrome
use firefox
it even comes with a free 🐈
It might sound cliché, but if this is you, have you tried doing... anything else? If this clearly isn't doing it for you?
As someone else mentioned, there's more you can do with a PC than play games, it can be creative or expanding ones own knowledge about computing. Or so something else entirely, I love sitting at my computer for hours doing whatever but sometimes just need to get out and enjoy nature for a bit. Gaming is a nice hobby, especially if you have games or a game that you really enjoy but it's not exactly meaningful or fulfilling. Treat it like watching TV.
Obviously, none of this guarantees success but continuing to do what doesn't make you happy guarantees failure.
Going out into nature, walking next to a river, or just hanging out in a part is underrated. It's nice.
It's mostly about not always doing the same thing because... well.. we get bored of it. If we were walking next to the river every day, it'd get boring and mundane. If we went bungee jumping every day, same thing. Why is gaming different?
Just have some variance in life, and don't always feel like you "have to" enjoy something because you did in the past. Chances are you would like to do something else for a little bit. I can certainly say that doing other things like hanging out in nature, or with friends, or other various fun stuff (may or may not include others), has made playing games more fun again too.
Best gaming rig I ever had is unironicly my SteamDeck
Oh I wish I had steamdeck. Handheld pc seems revolutionary. But unfortunately I don't have money anymore. I spent it all on drugs and psychiatrist. I also don't have a job. I don't even want to play. Maybe steamdevk would change that?
If you don't feel like playing games, don't worry about it. There are plenty of other things to do.
The virgin $3000 spender vs the chad $500 budget builder
You spent $500 on everything but the case.
I spent $500 on a laptop.
We are not the same.
.... I wish I hadn't bought the laptop...
I only spent $650 (in one big sale) and carried my 1050Ti over. $20 case and I turned the CPU lights off. I feel this (also hit the brakes on buying things), but I gotta say it's nice that I don't use a CPU from 2009 (that I had since 2011) anymore on top of everything.
I try to sometimes maybe do stuff (variably). Like programming or polygonal art in Godot. Currently waiting for the features that I want to coalesce in the same spot, looking at Github about it. I hope 4.2 is closer to that point, and that I make some projects. It's something different at least, constructive.
You could try hentai games. Some are very demanding in hardware, of course i wouldnt know because im a good christian boy.
I didn't feel like playing anything, so I started fiddling with all the different rgb zones I put in when I used to care about that sort of thing. I used openrgb to set my lights to respond to Temp and load of CPU an GPU, so then of course I had to play something demanding to make sure it worked properly, so I found some mods for risk of rain and now I'm into it again.
"Don't worry, it will..."
Never figured out the ending there, but thats what I tell myself.
Well hey, since you're not using it..... Wanna trade? The last game I tried just gave up and my laptop told me I needed a new graphics card.
It'll fulfill me until I finish the game and then lose all interest in gaming for another year.
A sad place for sad people to be sad.
Have fun!
This community is for people with depression. Memes and general discussion about depression are encouraged and welcome.
Bi-polar people are also allowed to post here but only sometimes.(joke)
This community is aimed at being inclusive for all people with depression and as such should be free of racism, homophobia, trans-phobia, sexism, patriarch and all other forms of hate-speech.
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Thnx
Some resources posted from helpful people:
Therapy is not for everyone, check out peer counseling instead: https://www.americanmentalwellness.org/intervention/peer-support/
Find health professionals: https://www.psychologytoday.com
