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[–] [email protected] 23 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm in the same boat, went from a software engineer at Intel for 6 years to "oh sorry, this entry level position requires a master's and 15+ years experience" or "are you willing to relocate to San Francisco/New York/other very high COL area?"

I closed on a house 2 weeks before being laid off, I'm terrified.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago

Software Test Engineer for 4 years and with the company for 10. 3rd year in my house and yeah I feel that fear. I'm so tired man.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 11 months ago (3 children)

LinkedIn was by far the worst place to look for jobs when I was looking. Indeed sucks, but at least I have a chance there.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

If you're up for corp-to-corp and contract work, Dice is a very strong choice. The CEO of Indeed is a friend of mine, so I hate to admit this, but we've historically had very poor results with it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago

I've had at least some talks with agencies through dice so it's on my watch list. Recently trying Otta so we'll see how it goes.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago

Agreed. May as well print off 50 copies of my resume and dump them straight into the trash.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Yeah Indeed's forced resume thing is somewhat tragic but the auto matching is not bad. It does a good job of picking the right ones.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Just got a new job after 3 months unemployment. While I'm glad to not be homeless, I'm going from 5 weeks vacation to 2, from full-time remote to dragging my ass to a cubicle 3 days a week. The worst part is putting that fake fucking smile on my face so my new bosses can't tell how much I despise being there.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago

Brother I feel you, but you still have a golden ticket. I just wound up back at minimum wage breaking my back, somehow, and I think about killing myself every day. I was making $22 an hour, great benefits, vacation time, etc. All gone because I was stressed out and thought I could find something else. Now I have nothing at all but overdrawn accounts and a million bill collectors calling me every day threatening me. Life could be worse.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

I feel this and it's honestly one of my greatest fears. I did customer service for so long to get where I was working for petty bullies with management titles.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago

The meat hurts but I'm full of calcium 🫂

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago (2 children)

After hundreds of failures, I managed to get a government job since they were obligated to test me on some incredibly easy "standardized test" which automatically gets you an interview with the team.

At least in these cases you're less likely to be at the whims of a wholly inept HR person and instead at the whims of a wholly inept assessment third party. And the latter at least doesn't care if you're fresh on the market.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago

not to mention government jobs are typically unionized

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's stellar. I'm finding myself being pushed out of consideration for almost every government or government adjacent field since I foolishly focus on the company before myself and don't have a degree for what I do. Hoping I can find something contracted if anything.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Ah, the irony is I have a degree but it worked against me since it's specialized--- you'd think I wouldn't have the 400+ applications rejected or ghosted, but every rung is filled with people asking too many years of exp, focusing on "objective facts" and ignoring soft skills like work ethics. (Incidentally, years worked on something isn't inherently good, it can mean you do the same bad job for longer, haha).

No degree, your best bet might be in IT. My dad started off at City Hall without a degree and moved up from an on call tech to something pretty decent. They likely still test you on basic computer skills but it's generally easy to learn.

One advantage you have at least is you can technically apply to anything. You don't have the burden of a degree forcing you into a given industry, and a lot of places will train you if they need the help (childcare and healthcare are always in desperate need and pay more than average). Try not to be discouraged!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

For sure that's basically my trajectory. I worked at a community college doing tech lab administration, then an ISP, then did networking for sound systems and eventually helping with the software side of things. I've started branching out my searches to unis and cities so definitely good advice and part of my search.

I'm trying to keep my head up but it's hard. Thanks for the well wishes it means a lot to me.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

satan! I usually only apply to 5-10 a week when im actively looking massively. I mean I look at a lot more but I only apply to things im pretty qualified for.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I try to practice discretion but at the same time I'd really like to be able to afford a trip to the dentist so there's a balance to things.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

understandable. sometimes its any port in a storm.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

You're not a failure. Society failed you.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yo, what's your dream job?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I did software testing for sound systems / IoT and their associated software. It was a fun mix of scripting, test planning, data. As a musician it really scratched that itch and as a nerd doubly so. Only now after being forced out have I come to realize I was riding a unicorn.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Fuck dude, as a musician who works diagnostics for a day job, I feel that. It's hard finding profit scratching that itch on the road, what you play?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Played cello professionally for a while until I realized nobody has a career in classical music without family money or a benefactor and I had neither. Good times and good lessons: I played with a metal band for a while and it rocked my world.