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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Im pissed af at norway (vent/rant incoming)for being a transphobic state that forces me to choose between being deported and getting to exist. My friend (who was almost killed by NBTS cause theyre fucking incompetent assholes who would rather a trans person die than admit that they made a (small) mistake) says that once ive changed my legal gender i can demand estrogen from my normal doctor (bypassing NBTS), but i still need to look at the law to see if thats correct, plus changing my legal gender is a huge complicated mess cause it involves two states that dont cooperate at all, and i think the doctor can just straight up refuse to perscribe cause theyre "not knowledgeable enough" or "uncomfortable". Fuck you norway you sack of shit fuck you fuck you fuck you. If you valued trans bodies half as much as cis bodies you would have addressed this years ago. But fuck, you just dropped forced sterilization as a requirement for gender change in 2016, and voted against apologizing to the victims of your eugenicist inspired policies. parliament is obsessed with "letting the experts make decisions in their field" but the field of trans healthcare is captured by terfs, transphobes, and hateful shitfucks who want help us by forcibly assimilating us into their gender hegemony just on the other side from our AGAB.

I dont know how relevant all that is, im exhausted and upset and probably not super cogent/on top of shit rn.

Im just tired of cis (and even some other queer people) saying its not that bador worse espousing norway as some great place for trans people. I mean, sure, i just get laughed at instead of murdered when im out on the streets, but thats not an idicator of an accepting society or a good place for trans people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

sicko-fem sneaking into the queer mega on a friday

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

gonna start identifying as a lesbian bc I'm too ticked off at men. this will probably change whenever i start prog tho lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

my brain: women are so much nicer and easier to date, look at all these lesbians who think you're hot

me: boys panting

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hard to explain, just bisexual stuff

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

i think that explains it perfectly actually

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I want to hold a cute girl's hand. That's it, that's the comment

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

This guy from grindr told me he doesn't want to meet up anymore sadness

Playing both sides so that I end up on top (hehe) doesn't seem to work out hexbear-bi-2

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Went to a local pride thing today and it was so nice just being surrounded by hundreds of other queer people. Even in this shithole state that hates us, we're out here!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

going on a little trip with my friends will try to experiment with non binary pronouns in rl ^^

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Taking some online courses and I found a new seasonal job. It's a shame porky demands I make six figs to not be stuck in bumfuck nowhere, but I will get out of my shitty hometown one way or another.

Ironic how they call us "undesirables" yet whenever we're around, property values are high. Too high. On the other hand, whenever there are too many so-called model citizen "good 'ol boys" living somewhere, property values are shit.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This coming Tuesday is my one year HRT anniversary!!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hell yeah! For me that was about when things started getting real heh.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

God I hope so. I mean I’ve loved it so far but it has been a bit slow in some aspects, like I’ve still got like next to no breast growth

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Unfortunately that's the thing that takes the longest 😭 I didn't notice much for the first two years or so really. These days I'm a C cup and am so happy, so patience is key!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

don't forget to take real measurements and use the bra size calculators! C cups are in reality rather small and properly sized bras fit so much better!

(if you're already doing this, carry on)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

yeah, I've been measured a couple times in addition to doing it myself. I'm sized properly.

a word of advice: if a woman describes to you a part of her body she is really happy with the size of, don't come along and call their breasts "rather small" 🙃

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

sorry didn't mean it like that. a lot of people don't know to get measured properly and end up using bras that are too small cause companies want to make money off of fewer sizes.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I figured as much, maybe just err on the side of not making comments about people's body size or shape.

you are right though, companies don't want to make a good variety of sizes. I was stuck in a couple sizes that were super hard to find for a while. now I can just get a cheap bra at target if I need, which came in handy on a trip recently

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

yep, that was my bad, I'm sorry.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Did your brain pog out immediately when you started on it? I've heard it's like a switch flips and that seems super affirming

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Results may vary but yeah it's dope

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, the first day starting it was one of the best days in my entire life. The excitement kind of died down a little over the following week as it became normal to me, but like it’s change my emotions so fucking much. It’s like putting glasses on or something like that, it’s a lot clearer. I laugh and smile so much more, but I also cry a lot more

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

bloomer this is very compelling

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Cishet Norwegians love to take pride in how progressive our country is on LGBTQ rights, but either don't care or come up with excuses when you mention the fact that 70% of trans people get refused gender affirming care by the healthcare system, and that non-binary people are automatically rejected because the government doesn't even recognize their existence. :norway-cool:

The only reason I was able to start HRT today is because I went DIY and ordered hormones online instead transshork-happy

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Congratulations on starting hrt! im sorry it isn't under better circumstances.

i always wondered, if you diy and then get access to the official system how do they handle that? logically, they should be more likely to help, since you're going to be taking hormones either way and they are better positioned to monitor things, but i imagine reality is t logical.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

So, the thing is that there's only one hospital in Oslo that's allowed to give gender affirming care to trans people, and the people there really don't like it when trans people get access to HRT in any other way. They only begrudgingly started accepting people doing DIY after the government forced them to do so a decade ago, and before then they would just reject you the moment they found out. But since they don't handle trans people on an individual basis everyone still has to go through the exact same bullshit requirements before they'll actually give you any meaningful help trans-sad