The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/030H_Stiltskin on 2025-06-26 22:09:23.
Sorry, this is long but needs context. My wife and I had a 2nd child and my wife decided she wanted to be a SAHM for at least a year which she did. We also have a 6 year old who she wanted to keep home since she would not be going into work. After 18 months she decided to go back to work. My work schedule for the last ten years has been 6am-2pm. She asked me if I could adjust my hours so that I could drop our oldest off at school in the morning and she would drop our youngest off at a daycare down the street that she passes on her way to work. I agreed to adjust my hours but told her that at certain times I would still have to go in early and she would have to handle both kids. When I take my oldest to school I have to come back home and switch vehicles to my company truck because she is too small to ride in the front seat and it has no back seats. This adds time on to the commute as well that I wasnt planning on. Initially I thought I would be able to get to work by 7:30 but I quickly found out I wasn't able to make it in until 8:15-8:30am. Rush hour traffic killed my normal commute time. Everyone else in my field starts at 6am. Sometimes we work in teams and me coming in late holds them up. I work in a trade. I can also be scheduled for testing and inspections at 7am as thats when our inspectors start. Over the summer both kids go to the same daycare. I pack their lunches and get the oldest dressed and ready in the morning. My wife wakes our youngest up 10 mins before they leave for daycare. All she has to do is put them both in the car and drive them to the same daycare. I tried getting back close to my old schedule by leaving the house at 6:30am and still getting the oldest ready to make it to work by 7am as I have really fallen behind at work by getting there late and leaving early these last 5 months so I don't get stuck in traffic on my way to pick up the kids from daycare. My wife thinks I am being an asshole and unreasonable because I am trying to get close to my old schedule for the summer. Her job doesn't start until 7:45-8am. Her commute is only 25 mins. Am i the asshole? My job is what covers our benefits which are some of the best you can get and I make almost 3 times what she makes. I don't want to risk my job. Am I being unreasonable? Also, my supervisors have no clue i wasn't starting until after 8am some to most days. They thought I was usually in by 7am or 7:30am on the rare occasion.