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I'll go first...after 10 years of speculating in the market (read: gambling in high risk assets) I realized I shouldn't ever touch a brokerage account in my lifetime. A monkey would have made better choices than I did. Greed has altered the course of life many times over. I am at an age where I may recover from my actions over the decades, but it has taken its toll. I am frugal and have a good head on me, but having such impulsivity in financial instruments was not how I envisioned my adulthood. Its a bitter pill to swallow, since money is livelihood of my family, but I need to "invest" all I have into relationships, meaningful moments, and fulfilling hobbies.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That I have a tendency towards addiction with drugs. I've been high (marijuana) more often than not for the past decade, with spurts of alcoholism peppered in throughout my adult life. I also had a phase for about a year where I did shrooms once or twice a week.

I still struggle with my consumption, but at least now I'm aware that it can easily get to the point where it affects my life too much and can cut back when I'm starting to feel like I'm getting sucked in. I think I'll always be an addict of some form or another, though.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

I am an "all or nothing type". Have weed in the house? It will be smoked daily. But, I stopped years ago. Stopped thinking about it, stopped being around people associated with it. I am proud now. I hope to be proud years from now from not throwing money away. Gotta let go and not think about it.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (4 children)
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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I'm horrible at acting in my own best interest and will say no to opportunities because i don't feel like i deserve it or that I'm capable of doing something.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (5 children)

i've recently had to accept that my neurodivergence makes managers, supervisors, etc. uneasy about me despite my stellar track record and the sole reason why i was able to maintain continuous employment was because of my high demand skill set; which means that employment will become increasingly difficult as i continue to age.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Just because I've been in relationships for years doesn't mean I'm any good at them 😬

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

that ending a relationship that isn't working is also my responsibility, instead of postponing it, thinking "this time things will be alright" or "if i break up, everyone will think wrong of me" and letting dissatisfaction grow inside me, turning myself into an *sshole.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Im never going to get everything right. Allowing myself this allowed me to get some of the more important things right.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

It was an incredibly large antibiotic pill because I didn’t want to shower (it took away from reading) and I got impetigo.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I have an unhealthy relationship with food. Oddly, the thing that really finally made it click was playing the Sims, and I noticed my Sim would get up & grab a snack from the fridge every single time they were bored.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

I was causing most of my own problems by having too many expectations that weren’t actually necessary

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