The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Salty-Video-4251 on 2025-04-16 14:24:14.
I found out I’m pregnant about 2.5 months ago with my first baby and I’ve told close family brother, sisters, mother, father etc. my sister had her first baby in March we are pretty close and I love her son like my own, she was really excited when I told her I was pregnant and couldn’t wait to be an aunt.
We were talking yesterday and I told her I’m gonna do a pregnancy announcement to the rest of my family (uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents etc) on Mother’s Day as it seemed fitting. She got super upset and asked why I would even think of doing that. She said it’s her first Mother’s Day and I want to take that away from her. That was not my intention at all I just thought it would be a super fitting and cute day! She continued to say I don’t care about her feelings considering this is her first Mother’s Day and that it’s rude cause she had a miscarriage right before this baby. I get where she’s coming from and postpartum is a tough place so I was super understanding about it and nice to her despite her yelling at me accusing me of not caring about her feelings.
Now I don’t know what to do I was really excited to tell everyone on Mother’s Day cause technically it is my first mother day too but I suppose I could tell everyone separately on another day?
I feel like I could be the asshole for not thinking about that before bringing it up to her but I also feel like she shouldn’t be but hurt over it and it could be a day we celebrate together.
What do we think am I the asshole?
EDIT: Mother’s Day is being held at my grandparents with my whole family to celebrate the mothers in the family.
I also see comments about announcing on Easter which is a great idea although she gave me a warning about Easter too as it’s her baby’s first Easter and we’re getting together as a family like we would for Mother’s Day.